Post # 1
Hello, I am new on here and appologise if someone else has already asked this question (I have searched for an answer on the board, however nothing came up that really answered my question)
I am having a very small wedding, total of 20-25 guests. Because of this we decided to spurge on the wedding favors. We have chosen to give the couples a bottle of our favorite wine ($25 per bottle). We really want our guests knowing how much we appreciate them attending.
Here is the problem, my FH has to daughters who will be attending, one is 14 and the other 17 (just about to attend college) I have told them that they can each bring a friend, so they are not bored. Naturally I will not be giving them a bottle of the wine. I’d like to give them something special as a favor. I have considered chocolates, however, I’d like to give something in the same price range. The other issue is the 17 year old is a bit difficult, she is hard to satisfy.Normally I do not cater to her, other than doing my best to be kind, polite and generous to a point. However, because this is such an important day I really want to give the kids something special and want the 17 year old to enjoy her favor.
So does anyone have any advice on what should be given to my teenage guests? I’m open to any advice you have!
Post # 3
@Hbonnell: How about you give the 17 y/o a personalized key chain from a company called things remembered? I gave my Maid/Matron of Honor one and she’s 18. She loved it. Here is a pic of what I mean. You could put her initals on it or her name? Oh, this could also work for the other teenager as well.
Post # 4
What about a bottle of sparkling cider or something similar so it goes along with what other guests are receiving? It might be kind of cool and ‘grown-up’ to have a sparkly beverage to go along with everyone else.
Also, when I read your thread title I giggled and thought, “Who would give teenagers away as wedding favors?” lol… I must be in an odd mood today 😛
Post # 5
@Hbonnell: If you want to stick with the beverage theme, you should check out Jones Soda – you can do a custom bottle, and give each under-age guest a bottle with a picture of you and your soon-to-be husband, and a custom message on the back. You could even choose a soda that matches your wedding colour.
Post # 6
I would not try to do the same thing or even similar to what you are doing for the adults. I don’t know a teenager who would want a personalized anything. They would think that is very “grade school” .
I would get them each a gift card to a store you know they love.
Post # 7
@julies1949: I think this is the best idea.
I wouldn’t have wanted a kid version of what everyone else was getting.
I also wouldn’t want anything personalized.
Cash or a gift card I think would be best. Unless you know something they’ve been pineing after.
Post # 8
Chocolate is almost always appreciated by teenagers (check first though – I personally couldn’t eat it as a teen, and I know it gave my sister acne). You may want to splurge a bit on Godiva or other high-end chocolate, but don’t expect much gratitude from it if your 17 year old has a bit of an attitude problem. They’ll most likely just eat it and not really think about the thought behind it too much.
Since they are your future step-daughters (and I right there? you keep referring to them as “guests”, I’m a little confused), maybe less of a favor and more of a gift?
How about an Etsy giftcard?
I feel like that’s a gift anyone would be thrilled to have – even picky teenagers.
If Etsy existed when I was a teen, I’d have been over the moon to get a giftcard!
Post # 9
i was going to say the same as @mgol25:. Those were are original favors but we found out of favorite brewery who also makes sodas does it as well.
Otherwise you could maybe get them a gift card to a spa to have their hair/nails done or something?
Post # 10
I always think edible favors are a hit. I’d stick to your original plan of chocolates!
Post # 11
I really like the upscale chocolates idea!
If someone would have given me something personalized when I was 17, my eyes would have gotten stuck from rolling them so hard! And I still wouldn’t be thankful for the chocolates… But I would secretly enjoy them.
Post # 12
Wow you guys are great! I love all the ideas. I think the personalized gift is fabulous but since both girls are bringing a guest I’d rather not give their “dates” a personalized gift. The jones soda idea is awesome, just checked out the website and it is a great idea. I think though the higher end chocolate, like Godiva is the way to go.
As for them being my stepchildren, it is a little complicated because they aren’t exactly my FH children. I’ll try to make a long story short. The mother of his children was married to another man, they were finding it extremely difficult to get pregnant so they asked my FH to “donate”(if you catch my drift) and they would go through artificial insemination. It worked fabulously and she got pregnant however her husband who wanted these children so badly was having an affair and got his girlfriend pregnant (turns out it was her problem, not his) Anyways a month before she was to deliver he left her. My FH was horrified and offered to be “dad”. She didn’t like this idea and instead asked him to be a more involved uncle. He has no rights and is not in their lives as much as a regular dad because of her request. Honestly it is more of an older brother relationship than a father one. So because of this, I don’t really consider them my furture stepchildren, just two people who’s lives are very important to my FH.
Post # 13
@julies1949: Definitely agree!
My kids are 14 and 17… same age as yours… and really all they want is money or gift cards!
Post # 14
The gift cards are a great idea, except the mother of his children is extremely well off (EXTREMELY WELL OFF… CANNOT STRESS ENOUGH – were talking highest end forest hill Toronto – if you know much about Toronto, you know forest hill if one of the wealthest neighborhoods, and she is at the top end of forest hill) The children get anything and everything they want (a little spoiled but that’s not my place to say anything). So I could see myself getting a $20 gift card for something and they would see this gift as nothing.
Under normal circumstances I agree that the gift card is best, but I really don’t want to broadcast to the children how much their favor is.
Post # 15
@Hbonnell: I’m sorry, totally off-topic, but why didn’t they try atrifical insemination with the husband’s sperm first? Or do some tests to see who was having the issue? It just seems really odd that they jumped to getting sperm from someone else before exploring all avenues to have a child themselves…
On topic: My fiancé got me a box of Godiva chocolates (one of the boxes that you pick all the individual chocolates to fill it with) and it was awesome. I vote for that.
Post # 16
@MistySoda no problem! Im not completely sure but from what I understand they did try using his sperm first but it would not work. I think they thought it was his sperm was the problem, but it was actually her. It was just a total fluke that it worked with my FH’s sperm. 3years later she desperately wanted another child so my FH offered his again, and that was a very very very long process, trying numerous times, until finally success again.