- 6 years ago
- Wedding: October 2012
I took one look at my ring when my fiance popped the question, and I saw the jewelry I had been so longing to get. Like most of us I floated on cloud 15 for weeks.
Maybe about a week after I’d gotten it, I started hearing my little inner detail nag.”this isn’t what you asked for” “you don’t really like, it…but don’t hurt his feelings””you have to wear this forever…are you sure “
I ignored those as best I could. I tried hard. For MONTHS actually. You see my fiance had been inundated with what I DID want, and about the only thing that matched was white gold and diamonds. I wanted a three stone, or a halo. This is what I got.
I wore it until it was falling off (I lost a little more than a ring size and all the body weight that goes with that), and then I couldn’t anymore.
The more I looked at my ringless hand, the more I cringed at the thought of having that one resized and continuing to rock it.
If our marriage is supposed to be about honesty, shouldn’t I be honest about it? I really tossed with this choice, even came here to the hive, where the overwhelming response is that it is rude, would hurt his feelings etc.
But I finally told him.
and he was crushed….expected. I let him sulk. I let him have his feelings. It wasn’t changing my mind. When I next got bling, it was going to be what I wanted. Because I want to look at my left hand and be reminded of all of the good parts of what we’re doing, not that annoying little bit that says “I got him what he wanted….why didn’t I deserve the same courtesy?”
After he sulked we talked about it, he agreed and understood and this time the shopping was up to me. We went together when I picked it out and I brought this beauty home yesterday (her name is Stella, bc she’s the star of my left hand )
I just want to be a voice to say it is hurtful, but he’ll get over it. After all he just wants you to be happy.