(Closed) Tell me about finding THE dress

posted 7 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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376 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

When you put on the right dress you will glow like a lightblub… you will just KNOW. However having said that, I found my dress really early on in shopping and because it was early on I decided to keep going to other stores. After trying on a billion more gowns and 1 month later, I realized I compared every single dress to “my” dress and then I was 100% certain. Its a really large purchase… I would try on as many types of styles as possible. The style I ended up getting I would have NEVER pictured myself getting- but I just love the way it fits and looks. So be adventuresome and don’t worry you will KNOW when you put on the right dress because you can’t stop smiling. 😀

Post # 4
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6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

i loved my dress when i tried it on – enough that i went back and tried it on again and bought it – after that i had serious dress regret! i bought with about 5 months to go and the salons were scaring me with their 4-6 month ordering timeline so i jumped the gun and bought it before really searching (and before finding the bee). i seriously cried about it for a while but on my wedding day i could not be happier with the dress i picked – i love it and if i had to pick again i’d pick the same dress

 

Post # 6
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6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

Even though you don’t have a lot of time, I would book two or three appointments this Saturday and go try on as many dresses as you can. If you still want the first dress, go back and buy it. You should definitely look at a ton of options if you’re unsure to avoid dress regret, but then again, you should look at them quickly, lol.

For me, I knew it was the one I wanted when I stopped having the urge to try on more dresses.

Post # 7
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6998 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

from my experience (even though i was super happy with my dress in the end) try on lots of dresses in all different styles – you really never know what will look good. when the time comes and you are ready to put the payment down go back and see if they still have the dress and try it on again – if they have it and you still love it then its meant to be 🙂 Good Luck!

Post # 8
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8738 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I didn’t have a “This is the dress” moment.

I tried on the dress. It was COMPLETELY different then what I’d imagined myself wearing (silk satin w/ a full skirt). I really liked it, it looked great on me, it FELT great on. Future Mother-In-Law and my Bridesmaid or Best Man told me I looked really comfortable in it.

Then I continued to try on other dresses, found a few more I really liked that were more in the vein of what I thought I was going to wear (lace, fit & flare/trumpet shape).

Then I went back and revisited the first dress with my family. They all loved it. I also showed them the lace dresses I liked, they liked the satin more.

After trying to two on so close together I was getting more sure the satin was the right choice.

I went back to it a THIRD time with just my bridesmaid. Put it on again and it just felt right. The other dresses were beautiful, and fit great, but there was just a little something special about the satin one. So I bought it.

I still think about the lace dresses, wonder if they would be better, but I think the satin was the right choice. Fittings don’t start until June so I’m stewing at the moment.

I should add – before I found the satin dress and the few lace contenders I had tried on over 50 dresses and was getting VERY discouraged.

Post # 9
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925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I was waiting for that WOW moment but didn’t get it right away. I actually bought the wrong dress the first time.

I had found one dress I loved on my first shopping trip, but couldn’t buy one the first day. I still had 3 other appointments later that week. In the end, I’m glad I didn’t buy that dress.

The following weekend I went to another store with 4 women who are very close to me (mom, g-ma, sisters) and they all thought one particular dress looked good on me. It was a trunk sale dress, and the designer, sales women, and others in the store commented that they loved it on me. I, however, wasn’t sure. It didn’t feel like my dress. I liked it, but it wasn’t what I had imagined. I bought the dress bc I thought that since everyone loved it so much it had to be it, but for the next 3 days I looked at pictures and would cry bc I knew I had made an expensive mistake.

We went back, I picked out only dresses in the style that I had wanted in the first place, and I narrowed it down to 3 similar ones–they were similar to the dress I found at the first store AND one dress I had tried on the first time at the current store and loved, but I was told that many other girls had bought that same dress (and I was trying to be different). When I had on the one that I loved, I got a feeling that I hadn’t had before. I felt excited, happy, beautiful, and I wanted to cry because it just felt right. Maybe other girls had similar dresses to this one, but I didn’t care, I loved it and I went with it and I still get excited when I think about it.  THAT’S how I knew it was the one 🙂

Post # 11
Hostess
11279 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Although you’ve changed your wedding date i’ll tell you my dress shopping experience.

First went shopping in my hometown with my Mum and 3 BMs. It was a lovely day and I tried on about 18 dresses but what I wanted wasn’t suiting me at all. But, the first dress I tried on which was an A-line style with straps that just sat on the shoulders did look nice and I felt like a bride so I did have a moment as I cried. Fortunately the store allowed photos. Good thing they did as a few days late after studying the photos for days of this one dress I went completely off it.

So 2nd shopping trip I took just my Mum and it was better, more calm. All the dresses in the sort of style I wanted were looking great on me, especially one designer specifically, which happened to be my favourite designer and the first dress I fell in love with was the one I purchased that day as I really had the moment. Though no tears, just the opposite actually, I was dancing around the shop in it.

Post # 12
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2829 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I didn’t really have a light bulb/overwhelming moment (but I sure saw  another girl have one–she started crying when she put a dress on, and I was like betcha 5$ thats her dress :P).

I tried on a few at one store and liked certain aspects of different dresses (like fit & flare made me look like I actually had some curves while ballgowns just drowned me), but didn’t love-love-love any particular one dress. I definitely LIKED some more than others, but not love.

I went to a few other stores and hated what I tried on–hated the way they made me look and feel (like a pre-pubescent girl-blegh!). So we went back to the store where there had been dresses that I liked, asked to see more in the style I liked best, but kept coming back to/comparing to a dress I had tried on previously.

So my partner said “well why don’t you try on X dress one more time to see how it looks?” so I did. And lo and behold, I liked it best. It made me feel good about my body, I didn’t have any major complaints about the design, and it was within budget so I bought it.

I think that everyone is different and some women just don’t have that huge surging emotional moment. If you keep coming back to the one dress, or other dresses don’t compare to it, then it might very well be a contender.

What really helped me was having some pictures to look at & compare between stores. I know some places won’t let you take pictures but if you’re sneaky with a cell phone you might be able to get away with it.

Post # 13
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610 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I only tried on about 10 dresses but, when i got to this one i know it was the one. I felt gorgeous like i was stepping out of a bridal magazine. I looked just like i envisioned i should look on my wedding day. And the look of Aw on my mom and sister’s faces had me sold. This was my dress. To top it off it had just came into the store and i was the first and only person to ever wear it. And the funny thing is i didn’t think i would even like it when  i seen it on the hanger. Am i ever glad i took a chance and tried it on. You will know when it is the “one”. 

 

Post # 14
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925 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

@CatyLady: I cried in the wrong dress, as well. Actually, I did this twice (with both of the dresses that I came close to buying/wearing). I did not cry when I put on MY dress. I think, like you, I cried more because it was so new seeing myself in a wedding dress and veil (the first cry was right after she put the veil on me for the first time). I didn’t cry by the 3rd and final “good” dress because I was already used to seeing myself in a wedding dress ensemble, but I did get a few tears that stung my eyes just knowing that I had found the right one.

Post # 15
Hostess
11279 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

@yellowlace: Yeah exactly. I think that’s what is was especially when the veil was on.

Post # 16
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206 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@His_Swallow: I’m having the same problem. I’ve been to 3 different places to try on dresses and I’ve tried on probably about 20 gowns. There were some I loved, but I didn’t have that “THIS IS IT!” moment with any of them. I’m going back on Friday to try on more… I don’t know what I’m looking for but the dresses I tried on aren’t “it”.

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