Tell me about how you overcame your dress regret. Need encouragement!

posted 2 years ago in Dress
Post # 2
655 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think it looks beautiful and the bustle looks ok too.

Maybe add a faux fur short jacket or wrap to give a more ‘cold mountains’ feel…or one of those faux fur hand warmer things (muff?)

Post # 4
142 posts
Blushing bee

Can you try to sell it on or even craigslist and buy something more your style? Sounds like you are saving a lot of $ by downsizing and having a more casual wedding so you can use some of the $ you are saving to buy your preferred dress while you wait for the other one to sell. That way you get what you want and wont have to put additional money into it. The dress is very beautiful but I can’t imagine how you feel hating it. You should be happy with what you get to wear. Hope it goes well!

Post # 5
571 posts
Busy bee

Ohhhh I love this dress on you. It’s gorgeous. I really love the bustle by the way and I generally hate bustles lol. Your dress doesn’t need to suit a particular location. If you liked the dress for Kansas, I would wear it in the mountains. I would do some type of shawl/wrap for extra warmth.

We eloped in the mountains. I wore the same dress I would have had we done the whole formal shebang. That being said, I did buy two dresses. The first I bought at a consignment shop because it was nice enough and really cheap… but I regretted that and did go buy a second one so I’m probably not the best to be giving advice on dress regret haha. The first one wasn’t me, and if this one isn’t you, I’d try to sell it and buy something else. 

Post # 6
417 posts
Helper bee

radgardner :  It’s a gorgeous dress! You could always chop the train off (what a shame though!) and pair it with a white sweater to make it less “formal”.

Image result for white angora cardigan sweater

Post # 7
1721 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

I just wanted to say the dress looks beautiful on you!

Post # 10
1996 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

radgardner :  

Bee not gonna lie dress looks gorg on you. The lace and beading to die! 

Post # 11
8998 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

radgardner :  

Oh don’t buy a third dress dear OP , you are maybe getting a bit pre-wedding crazy here!  

If sleeves are a big part of the regret , you could maybe have the cap sleeves  replaced with long plain ones . ETA I just looked  again and  see they are integral to the dress so cover rather than replace I guess   … with a plain  tulle shrug/topper perhaps ? Like one of these (love the second one)  


Do you have to use the bustle? I managed  a long train without,  no probs.

Finally, I have to say you look gorgeous in the  dress despite you ‘hating’ it,  sorry !      

Post # 12
647 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

I agree adding a fur or faux fur shall or bolero kinda deal. 

I (still) dont like my dress. I was also pressured into it. But the dress itself is stunning, I am just super insecure when I wear it. But I have told myself that it is one day, for not even 12 hours.. maybe like 5 or 6 hours. And I can suck it up for that amount time and “fake it til I make it” kinda deal. 


Post # 14
839 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: Church

radgardner :  Personally for me, I started out loving my dress then I lost some love but now I love it again. It took three trips to the seamstress and a few alterations. I was worried that I was too big for my dress and would need long sleeves under my already long jacket. Neither was the case 🙂 She actually took the dress in and that made all the difference. I lost the idea to add sleeves after talking with her, and I realized that I could trust her. I posted a month or ago that I wanted to add sleeves and the other bees called it right. I don’t have any dress regret now, I’m 100 % back in love and it’s going to last 🙂 I think you look very pretty in your wedding dress but follow your heart.  I followed my heart straight to a good seamstress who worked her magic. I actually cried happy tears  after everything was finalized and I was ready to take  my dress back home. Are you having an indoor or outdoor wedding? They white sweater the other bee posted was really pretty and would work for a cold day. 

Post # 15
417 posts
Helper bee

radgardner :  Honestly, the dress is gorgeous, and you look like a old Hollywood starlet in it with that rockin’ pin-up bod. 

I’m of the opinion that every bride should get to wear their dream dress on their wedding day, I don’t care if you go to the Justice of the Peace. You are going to look gorgeous. Please post pics of your ceremony, if you feel comfortable!

And you can always buy an informal reception dress. For example, this dress is $96

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