I saw a dress I loved from 2012 that was no longer for sale anywhere so I had a custom version made.
Shockingly, the custom version was NOT the same as how I pictured it in my head. I wanted this Satin gown with a show stopping bow and a detachable train and instead I got this thing that was really plain and blah.
I went to a great alterations lady and she did an amazing job of pressing the satin and bringin out the pleets, plus she totally reshaped and reattached the bow, and she reshaped the skirt. It looked better, but it still looked boring.
I spent weeks searching for another gown to buy but they all looked pretty similar – satin a-lines and ball gowns, various trains, but none of them seemed as good as that first gown from 2012 that no longer existed. I was in love with a ghost of a dress.
One of the reasons I wanted an all satin gown is becuse I was marrying in to an Indian family. I was not wearing a saree, but I was going to be wearing a LOT of indian Jewelry. And if you know much about indian jewelry kyou know it would snag on lace, and also it would be way too much bling if I wore a lacy/sparkly dress and then wore 5 lbs of jewelry. So I wanted a “plain” dress to work with the jewelry, but I didn’t think plain would be bad. And this dress just fell flat of my expectations.
As the wedding got closer I was sure I had made a terrible decision and that I had failed some test of woman-hood. But buying a new dres was out of the question.
On my actual wedding day FOR THE FIRST TIME EVER I did my hari, and my makeup, and put ont he jewerly. This changed the look pretty dramatically! So the first time I *liked* my wedding dress on my wedding day. There’s even a photo of my looking in the mirror and I”m surprised that I like it.
It turns out I LOVED my gown! It was perfect for me!! I did not botch the dress! I wore something off trend, and I rocked the hell out of it! Also – on the actual wedding day, I was so overcome with love for my husband, and with all the love of friends and family who had comed to see us get married, that I felt like a movie star! I really did not anticipate the outpoor of love having such an impact on me.
Here is the final look with all the jewelry.
No tw dress regret stories are the same. SOmetimes, you really do just need to get a new gown. But for me, it was a matter of perspective. I know that what ever you do you will look studding on your wedding day! And you will FEEL like a movie star!