Tell me about nesting

posted 2 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 2
Hostess
3209 posts
Sugar bee

Bee, this is totally normal! Before baby 1 was born, I was the same way. I obsessed over what baby items I had and didn’t have (had to make sure I had everything he needed). I got a steam cleaner and cleaned the carpets in the whole house. I was convinced we needed a maid to come in and deep clean the house, even though I had cleaned everything myself already. I washed and folded a million baby clothes. I was super detail oriented. I also had that horrible feeling like when you have a huge test the next day, and you keep going over and over the answers in your head to make sure you know everything. I guess this means you’re just like the rest of us!

I’m pregnant with baby 2, and I’m not as far along as you yet. But I’ve planned her entire nursery in my head, down to what color knobs I’m buying to replace the standard ones on the dresser I picked. I’m super type A, and I like to be prepared. Lol.

Post # 3
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Bumble Beekeeper

I haven’t hit the “nesting” stage yet, but it seems so silly to me that we have this cutesy name for preparing for the arrival of baby. With any big event, there is a preparation stage beforehand. It is what it is.

We’ve barely done anything to get ready at this point. Once the new year hits (baby due in April), we’ll come up with a plan. 

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2016

craigslistgirl :  I mean…nesting isn’t just a “cutesy” term used to describe pregnant women. It’s actually an animal instinct that has been studied in many different species. 

From Wilkipedia: Nesting behaviour refers to an instinct or urge in pregnant animals caused by the increase of estradiol (E2) <sup id=”cite_ref-1″ class=”reference”>[1]</sup> to prepare a home for the upcoming newborn(s). It is found in a variety of animals such as birds, fish, squirrels, mice and pigs as well as humans.

catmom17 :  I’m currently just over 2 weeks away from my due date and the nesting is REAL. Yesterday I was running around like a crazy person trying to get everything ready. It’s difficult because we live in a small one-bedroom house so there isn’t much I CAN do. But I’m trying regardless. Washed all his newborn and 3 month clothes. Set up all his sleep stuff. Arranged all his blankets and bibs. Hung his bath stuff up in the shower. And I cannot stop taking out the garbage! It’s like I want the house to be forever clean. We actually have our cleaning lady coming on Wednesday but then they probably won’t be back until after he’s born. So I know from Wednesday until then I’ll be my own cleaning monster! πŸ˜‰ 

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2016 - The Great Southern Club

well, i didn’t think i was nesting but we ended up renovating our entire house at 8 months pregnant. new floors, new kitchen, an addition, redid bathroom, new siding, new windows, among other things…..my contractor was putting in our front porch columns on the day i went to be induced tongue-out so i guess maybe that counts? hahah really though it was because we just bought the house and it needed some major sprucing!

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I’m 25 weeks & have started to feel the nesting urge… Darling Husband had to work at a friends all day yesterday so I spent my sunday cleaning the house ALL DAY LONG. And I kept getting distracted by the silliest things- like cleaning up the junk drawer or the front of the fridge bc I kept thinking it HAD to be done before baby arrived & that means NOW…. Nevermind that I have 3+ months left LOL! I am paying for it today tho- my feet & back hurt something horrible! I’ve been steadily preparing tho, so nothing is super urgent, it just feels super urgent now for some reason… Doesn’t help that we are having friends over for dinner on xmas eve & anytime we host ppl I already get an irrational need to have the house spotless… 

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

Whenever I’m anxious, the one thing I do is clean and organize. It’s my way of creating calm. I don’t really recall nesting at all when I was pregnant until the day my water broke. My water broke on Christmas night, but as we were opening presents and afterwards, I basically would not stop cleaning. I wanted all the wrapping paper gone, the gifts put away, house cleaned, etc. My husband kept trying to get me to stop, but I was convinced it was the most important thing ever at the time. I’m glad I did since that was the last day we had without our LO!

For me, if I ever get that urge no matter what the reason is, I go for it, because I figure somehow my subconscious is telling me to chill.

Post # 9
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

i was due friday with #2.  i guess i don’t have the nesting gene in me.

for #1, combination of IVF and jewish superstition, i barely had anything ahead of time.  i ordered my furniture at 30w, which was delivered right before DS was born at 36+6.  we did have a cleaning lady scheduled, as we needed a deep clean anyway.

this time, i have the room ready.  same theme of primary colors, but the walls are bare bc i’m waiting to see if boy or girl as i want to add a little something more than bare minimum with my son’s room.  all the clothes are washed and ready.  my house needs the cleaning lady, but i had canceled her last week because i thought the baby would be coming.  just need to get on her schedule for after baby comes.

right now, i’m tired of constantly cleaning up toys that my toddler dumps out, so my living room and basement are covered in toys. 

 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

I know how you feel, I couldn’t nest either! It’s the most frustrating thing when you finally get energy to prepare, but you can’t act on it!

We were living in a teeny tiny apartment and there was no room for anything new, except the crib. I wanted to make a cute little nursery with all these DIY things, but had to be content with freeing up some drawers for baby stuff, and watching Darling Husband put the crib together. It’s funny, but all that bottled up nesting instinct hit me hard years later, when we moved. I’m staying up late so I can clean and decorate, because I’ve only waited to make a cosy “nest” a few years…

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2012

Um yes, totally. I’m only 23w but am having a major meltdown over nesting and our living arrangements. We sold our house this fall, and are breaking ground on our new house soon. We’re getting ready to move into a temporary rental while we build and it’s SO BAD. We’re friends with the owners, and while I didn’t think it would be all that nice (at least not what we are used to) I honestly didn’t think it would be as bad as it is. I’m in tears every time I’ve walked through the front door. It has my anxiety and stress through the roof. We figured we could suck it up for a few months since it’s cheap and no lease, we’re slated to be in our new house by September so we didn’t want to have to sign a years lease. Needless to say I just set up a cleaning company to come and do a hospital grade steam clean (and carpet cleaning) of the whole entire house before I’ll let Darling Husband move any of our furniture in. On top of that I just feel so defeated because the nesting in me is ready to get a jump start on getting a nursery done/organized and I’m so depressed over this rental that I can’t even get myself to want to do anything now.

Post # 12
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Buzzing Beekeeper

I love these stories! I’ve been so beyond terrified of something going wrong that we’re woefully behind on making any preparations at all for baby and I’ll start my third trimester on Christmas Eve. So I’d gladly welcome any bite from the nesting bug!

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

catmom17 :  I actually started organizing and purging the junk out of our house as soon as we hit the second trimester (at 14 weeks)… And I’m glad I did, because by the time I hit 21 weeks, I couldn’t physically handle doing as much anymore. I could barely get the tree and decorate it the first weekend of December! I’m now at 23 weeks, and so exhausted. My sister is visiting me over the holidays, and I’m making her help me build the baby’s dresser and nightstand, as well as line the closet shelves and go through all of our books (since we got rid of one of our bookshelves and we have no plans on replacing it). I’m at the point that I’m very eager for the baby shower so I can get everything together for the baby. I also plan on cooking/freezing meals the last 4ish weeks.

Since you are high risk, I highly recommend you ask for help from close friends and/or family. Get a cleaning person, if you need to. I’ll be hiring someone to come clean 2-3 weeks before our due date.

Post # 15
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Buzzing Beekeeper

catmom17 :  I’m so sorry to hear you’ve had complications, but I’m glad you and baby are handling everything so well 😊 I’m still in a glass case of emotion lol. 

Wishing you the very best in this final countdown!!!!

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