Post # 1
For various reasons, I’m considering changing my plans from what I was planning (~150 ppl, pretty traditional flow to the day) to doing a pretty small, simple wedding ceremony/reception (less than 50 people, only imediate family and close friends). A few reasons I’m considering going this route: 1) I’m a very social person, but I don’t necessarily like being the center of attention. The thought of taking my vows in front of 150 ppl makes me nervous! 2) I’ve been to a ton of weddings in the past 5 years and they all sort of seem the same. I wanted something different, but even with trying to do something different, the further I plan the more it seems to be pretty much what everyone else has done in the past, just at a differnt venue 3) I’ve talked to a few friends who have gotten married in the last year or so and they have all said that the day is so hectic, and the ceremony/reception on such a schedule, that you don’t even get to really mix and mingle with your guests too much. I want to be able to really talk and catch up with the people there! I don’t want to feel like I’m handed a schedule and just shuffled through the day! 4) For the amount of money it costs, I have a lot of expectations that it will be best/funnest day of my life, and based on the above, I feel like I will be a bit disapointed. 5) even with the larger route, there are still a number of people who I would like to invite that I can’t. Making it a really small exclusive group will cut people out, but hopefully cut it in a way that folks aren’t offended.
I’m not 100% convinced that the small route is the way to go though, so I wanted to get others inputs on what you have had, or are in the process or planning, for a smaller, more intimate gathering. So for those of you who had smaller weddings, how did the day flow? Are you hapy with your decision to have a smaller wedding? Do you feel your families were supportive of this decision? Any regrets?
I have also been considering doing the small ceremony/reception, then a week or two later having a big party where all of my friends and extended family would be invited.
Post # 3
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
We had a small wedding (32 people total, including us) and loved the way our day turned out. We had one-on-one conversations with everyone, really had time to socialize, and felt very comfortable throughout the day. Small weddings can be just as beautiful and lovely as big weddings. They are just on a more human scale. 🙂 I shared my teaser pics on the recaps board, if you want a peek into our day.
Our intimate, elegant, lovely affair… teaser pics
Post # 4
We had a smaller wedding – about 55 people. We kept to immediate family (no aunts and uncles even), grandparents, bridal party, and our closest, closest friends. We planned a weekend event, rather than just one day, and becuase of that we had a lot of time with our guests. We ended up finding a huge, vacation home in the mountains of Maine that was STUNNING. There were 10 bedrooms, a game room, an indoor pool, multiple hot tubs, a movie theater room, and the dining room sat 70 people. We had both an indoor and outdoor option (thank goodness, because we needed it). We had an informal cookout on Friday, a rehearsal dinner on Saturday, and the wedding on Sunday. It is true, on the day of the wedding I didn’t get to spend a lot of time with anyone. The rest of the weekend, however, I did. For that reason alone, I love what we did! It wasn’t cheap and I probably spent what I would have spent on a pretty kick-butt wedding for 150 people but I went all out – hired a babysitter for the kids, transportation for everyone staying off site, lobster, filet mignon, top shelf wine and booze, etc. I don’t regret any of that nor do I regret the small group. Everyone had a blast and commented how fun and relaxed it was and how it didn’t “feel” like a small wedding. The only thing I would do differently is I would have had more of the food catered because shopping and cooking for 55 people two days before the wedding was not a smart move. I knew I would not be happy with an “average” wedding and while ours did have some of those components (first dance, parents dance and my father walking me down the aisle) we also broke tradition a bit and certainly did things a bit different. The scenery and vacation feel truly did make it special, and the small group of people felt pampered. It was just how I wanted it to be!
Post # 5
Last Sunday was my small wedding, 50 people including us. It was perfect! Because of the smaller size we were able to do so much more. We upgraded our buffet to way more options, and everyone got their food quickly without having to stand in a huge line. Our open bar lasted all night and we didn’t even hit our max, we are getting a refund from our venue. We talked to every person at the wedding more than once. I was a little worried the dance floor would seem empty, but our DJ was amazing and everyone danced a lot. We only had 5 tables, so I didn’t have to split up anyone. All my friends got to sit together. Everyone told us how personal it felt and we have had nothing but compiments. I’ve been to large weddings and I knew it wasn’t what i wanted, and it worked out well because Darling Husband and I both have very small families.