(Closed) Tell me about your small wedding!

posted 5 years ago in Logistics
Post # 3
905 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

My Fiance and I are getting married in a historical home/mansion in our hometown. There are 18 people invited; 20 including the two of us. Parents, siblings, nieces/nephews, grandparents and our best friends. We are having the ceremony and dinner all in the same place, as well as cocktails/open bar. After dinner, we will probably go out with our families.

Post # 4
1161 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@orchidaloha:  Our wedding will be small. Our plans have changed a million times since getting engaged a year and a half ago…they went from big and traditional, to elopement, to backyard bbq, and FINALLY to a small morning wedding of about 50 people with either light refreshments or a luncheon afterward. Since coming to our final decision we’re planning it in about 3.5 months! Thankfully there are a lot less moving parts for us now in comparison to our original plans because we’re going for a more laid back feel. Your plan sounds great and definitely doable within your time frame.

Post # 5
3420 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

I have no idea how our small 40 person wedding turned into 150 people…. smh…

Post # 6
3229 posts
Sugar bee

My Mother-In-Law planned and paid for our wedding. We had less than 50 guest (we had a few wedding crashers so I’m not sure what the final number really wasy). All but 10 of our guest were family. The other 10 were neighbors. We had no friends there because we made it clear that it was a family-only wedding. Of course, then my Mother-In-Law decided to invite the neighbors…

Anyway, we had it at their house (it’s a very nice house in a very nice country club neighborhood). The ceremony was inside due to the rain but the reception was outside in a tent. We took a ton of pictures in advance to save on time and socialize more with our guest. Everyone either stood or sat down during the ceremony. It was a short 5 minute ceremony anyway. From there, we took some more pictures and then had everyone go out to the tent. After signing the marriage license, my husband carried me out to the tent because of my high heels and the rain. My in laws provided all the alcohol and we had a passed appetizers, a buffet dinner (filet and salmon), and cake for dessert. Everyone ate, drank, and had a good time. We had no dancing though and a few toasts. The wedding started at 6 PM and was over by 9:30 or so. With such a small number of guest, we did not expect people to stay late or party all night long.

Even though I had my wedding at my in law’s house, it was still a pricey wedding though. I have no idea what the final tally was but I am sure it was still in the five figure range. We are not DIY-ers and had the caterer take care of as much as possible.

Edit: We got engaged on December 9th, 2012, decided on a date by December 25th, and got married on April 27th, 2013 – our engagement was a little bit over 4.5 months long.

Post # 8
3697 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We had what I’d consider a normal wedding with all (ok, most) of the trappings, just scaled down.  I planned it all in the 6 months between when we picked the venue and the wedding (we were engaged for a little over 7 months). 

We got married in a sculpture garden in front of a waterfall and had our reception in an indoor garden.  We had a plated dinner and normal wedding cake.  No DJ (although had I to do it again I’d just pay someone) or dance floor, just Spotify and a playlist and my brother.  We still had an open bar and all our friends had a great time.

There were 39 people at the reception including us, the pastor and his wife, and photographer. It cost us a little over $10k not including rings or my dress.  Or photography, since he’s a family friend. 

We were super happy to be able to celebrate in style with just our closest of friends and family.

Post # 9
199 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@orchidaloha:  We are getting married in a national park that is a car ride for me and Fiance and a plane ride for our guests, which are just parents and siblings.  Then we’re going out to dinner at a reserved room in a nice restaurant.  Between our engagement and wedding will be less than 4 months.  Totally doable 🙂

Post # 10
4495 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We originally planned on getting married in Hawaii with around 15 guests. Well, we ended up buying a house so the Hawaii thing got to be too expensive.

We also considered eloping, but like your’s, our families were not too keen on that idea.

Instead we are having around 50 guests and getting married at a local, small hotel. It was built in 1926 and is super charming. I also just wanted a nice dinner rather than a typical, grand wedding reception. We thought about just going to a nice restaurant afterward, but the hotel gave us such a good deal that we will be having dinner there in their ballroom. We’re having one giant king’s table for everyone to sit at, with my Fiance and I sitting at the head of the table. I think this style is much more intimate than the typical round table set up.

Post # 11
348 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

We’re having a small wedding of only 28 invited guests. Our criteria was that if they weren’t immediate family or a friend-that-is-family, they were not invited.

We’re hosting somewhat of a “wedding weekend” from Friday night through Sunday where us and all of our guests will be staying at our venue, which is a rustic mountain lodge in the Adirondacks.  The vibe is going to be casual, low-key and homey.

Friday night we’re BBQ-in. The morning of our wedding (Saturday), we plan on taking an easy hike up the mountain.  Anyone who wants to join us is welcome. 

Ceremony will be around 4:00 in the afternoon out on the lawn overlooking the mountains… it’s so beautiful that I don’t want to tarnish it with any decorations.  Fiance will be wearing nice dark blue jeans, boots, a white button-down shirt with the sleaves rolled up, and a black vest. We have no bridal party at all.

For the reception, we are splurging on a super-nice meal as well as a full top shelf open bar. We are both major foodies so this was important to us.  And the small number allowed us to provide for that on a budget. 

We do anticipate some dancing and have hired a DJ, but it will not be a high-energy party.  If people dance, then great! If not, it will be background music.  I debated for a long time whether the expense and presence of a DJ was worth it and thought about iPod-ing it.  But at the end of the day, I do not want to have to worry about music coordination that day (and I am strongly opposed to assigning ‘jobs’ to family and friends) and decided that the DJ was worth the investment for peace of mind and less work.

After dinner and cake cutting, everyone is going to move back outside where we are having a bon fire!  We’ll chit chat, make s’mores, drink more beer and take in the day.  Then people can go back to their rooms for the night when they’ve had enough, or stay out as late as they want.

Sunday morning we’re having brunch with everyone before checkout, and say our goodbyes to everyone.  Monday the 7th we leave for our honeymoon 🙂

Post # 12
286 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Our plans changed a million times, too. We were going to have a big white wedding and cancelled it; then we were going to elope but got backlash from family; now we’ve decided on an intimate, family-only wedding with 30 people.

We’re having it at a B&B, ceremony in the backyard under the trellis, with a string quartet. Reception is a four-course dinner in the dining room, with a choice of salmon or steak for the entree. We’re also having wine paired with each course. There will be Frank Sinatra type music playing for ambiance, and we’re doing a mismatched vintage china/tablescape. It will be very intimate and romantic.

I actually love our new plans, as I can really focus on the details. Our invitations are crazy awesome (if I do say so myself), and there are so many little areas to focus on when you’re not busy making 200 favors.


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