(Closed) tell me about your (very!) intimate wedding

posted 11 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 16
21 posts

My daughter had a very intimate wedding (12 guests) due to the fact her husband’s father and friends couldn’t get visas and she and her husband didn’t want a big fancy wedding.

They were married a City Hall followed by a celebration dinner at a local restaurant (which was prebooked, they let us bring in a wedding cake) The City Hall chapel provided the music (they were open to couples bringing their own music but they opted for the standard music and vows. (A short procession with our daughter & her dad.) I was the photographer and florist. (I’ve been interested in phodter antography since I was a teen.) After the luncheon, I took them to a park I had scouted out prior to the wedding day. We didn’t have a separate room at the restaurant and it turned out to be fun – a nearby table of kids sang “Here Comes the Bride” to her. It was a wonderful wedding, the only regret I have is that we forgot to get a picture of all of their guests with them.


Here’s a couple of their photos –  before the ceremony, vows, cake cutting, portrait at the park and getting silly after many photos.


cake cutting at the restaurant:

at the park:

ng silly

getting silly after many photos:


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Post # 17
216 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2015 - Antique Rose Emporium

Due to the fact that our families are in Texas and South Carolina respectively, sacrifices were going to have to be made no matter what. We settled on a small wedding in TX to allow for a nicer honeymoon and trip back home to celebrate with my family.

On May 19, 2015 my Fiance and I will wake up early, have breakfast wih our parents who will have come into town the night or two before. After breakfast we will get ready seperately and arrive at the venue (20 minutes away from our house).

We will see each other for the first time all done up, have an hour of photography, then guests will arrive. I am expecting 10 people at the ceremony. Afterward we will do group shots and then leave.

For the reception we will be renting the private outdoor patio at our favorite restaurant. We will be paying for up to 25 people to eat. We will cut our homemade cake. 

After, we aren’t sure yet what we will do but we want to rent a night at a beautiful nearby B&B. Our wedding will be incredibly simple but significant. So significant. I am so excited.

Post # 18
214 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

We are doing a similar idea, except that the wedding will actually be a surprise to our guests. We are planning on hosting easter dinner and having immediate family attend (15 people or so). Then before dinner have some cocktails and make the announcement and get rolling with a quick ceremony after I put on my dress. It’ll be at our home so we wanted to restrict numbers to keep it sane. Also, neither my SO nor I really enjoy the show that comes along with big weddings. We wanted an intimate feel and not to be on display. 

We will be walking down the aisle together to music from an ipod. With everyone either standing or sitting around the arch we will have set up in our yard (weather permitting). We will likely do a first look (since he will be seeing me anyways before we walk to the arch). My only priority was to have a photographer to do the getting ready, first look, ceremony and beginning of dinner. Because of the surprise and the small number of people, having good pics was important to me. We have a family friend who is a professional photographer, which makes it easy. 

Dinner will be in our dining room (it’s a large space) and catered. We plan on having music on an ipod during dinner but nothing too complicated. 

Oh, we’re also planning on having a piper for the recessional. 

Post # 19
7 posts
  • Wedding: September 2017

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luli29 :  Thanks for sharing! I am having a similar wedding… what kind of DIY projects did you do? thanks in advance!

Post # 20
10200 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

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FutureNYa :  

Our wedding was about your size and it was lovely.  One of the guests told me later it was the nicest wedding she’d ever attended.  And we only spent about $2000 in Palm Springs.

Our venue was a remodeled hotel which went for mid century design in a big way and our theme was Old Palm Springs, so it worked.  We bought one of their wedding packages, so that covered the room and dinner in their restaurant.

Our florist set up pillars with mums at the altar.  FYI, mums are the cheapest flowers on earth, I think, but they look nice.  I walked myself down the aisle.  We had a room at the hotel for my hair and make up to be done.

The photographer knew how to be unobtrusive.

Dinner was incredible.  The food was excellent, wine and champagne were included in the package as was white glove service. The ceilings were at least twenty feet high and they had drapes, so they could separate our tables from the rest of the diners.

All in all, everyone seemed to enjoy it.  We went kid free, the venue was not suitable for kids and Dh and I wanted it quiet and elegant.

The price tag turned out to be a blessing.  Right before the wedding, Dh got laid off and I lost my best client.

The wedding was very “us”.

Post # 21
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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FutureNYa :  this is so exciting! We had a very intimate wedding too with just our immediate family and one aunt there. and I wouldn’t change it for the world. To answer some of your questions: 

My husband and I had our ceremony in a big park. Followed by a reception at a nice restaurant.  We reserved a private room and my sister in law and I went that morning to decorate the room and bring the cake. 


My SIL and i got our hair done in a salon that morning and then did our make up in my our hotel room (which was in a historic hotel). She then left and my husband showed up with our photographer who arranged a first look photo. We then took some photos and took a cab to our venue (which was central).


We scouted the park before hand and found a good spot to meet and to have our ceremony.  our family waited there with our officiant who led the way to a spot we liked. And then our family just stood around us in a semi circle during the ceremony. There wasn’t anyone else around it was so private and full of love. We wrote our whole ceremony ourselves and broke out a bottle of veuve cliquot where we toasted. it was just so nice and beautiful and we were glad to share this moment with just our closest.


We didn’t have any music at the ceremony but you could. It was spring so there were a lot of birds chirping around and that was really nice. wasn’t awkward at all! 



We took photos before and after yea and he came during one hour of the reception. to be honest the first hour we were all just drinking and having platters.  (we asked the restaurant to have meat and cheese platters and wine ready for us upon arrival). So he left before the actual dinner. 



yes we got a private room. As mentioned my SIL decorated the room with flowers and like a diy board I made of our time line. My husband and I created a Playlist so we brought an IPad and blue tooth speakers and that was our music. We brought the cake and asked the restaurant to take it out right before we arrived. As mentioned we had cheese and charcuterie platters and wine ready for us. Oddly we got to the venue with our photographer before our families did because they had trouble finding parking Centre town (it was Victoria day which is very busy here). so our photographer took photos of just us two. Then when the family arrived we just all spoke and we’re merry. There was no awkwardness between the two families because there was so much love and so much intimacy. After the photographer left we ate a three course meal, talked, had a “semi dance to our wedding song” which was mainly comical.  My mom had a short movie, which was badically a collage of photos and quotes, she created as her speech which was touching.  Other people gave speeches. My husband gave a speech to my parents in their language. it was all very nice and time flew by. We left at 11pm.



Any other tips I should know of/consider before the big day?? 

Everything will fall into place. find a photographer and an officiant that gets you guys and communicate very openly with them. Having such a small wedding really allows you to make it your own, so don’t shy away from that!

Post # 22
289 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Just realized this was an old thread that was bumped. oops

Post # 23
69 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

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Aubergold :  Ideally I’d do the exact same thing. I’m curious how your family handled your plans? Have you told anyone? I care too much what people think but I know a handful who would be very hurt if they weren’t invited so we expect to have about thirty at ours.

OP, I love this idea. Such a special intimate time where you can focus on spending time with each guest and not be overwhelmed. I’d forget the expectations of a big wedding and do exactly what you feel is right!

Post # 24
1897 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

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adrianamrg :  I havent logged into weddingbee for a long time – thanks for getting me back here!

As for DIY projects, I did my own invitations, church programs, cake topper, guest card box, favors, table seating cards, and a “Love is Sweet” sign for the cake table

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