(Closed) Tell me about your wedding without alcohol….

posted 6 years ago in Reception
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

There is an easy solution to this… (seeing as you are worried)

Have a morning wedding… with a Breakfast / Brunch or Lite Lunch served BEFORE or after

Will solve all the issues, and can be a very classy affair (as informal or formal as you wish to make it)

That is certainly what I’d do

And the BONUS is you and Hubby can be on your Honeymoon that much earlier… convenient if you need to drive somewhere, catch a plane, etc.

 

Post # 4
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Fiance went to his friends wedding before we were together. He said it was dry and there was no dancing or music. He said it was just kind of awkward and boring. He said everyone kind of just sat around. Thankfully it worked in my favor to get him to splurge on drinks and music though lol. I would at least try to have dancing, you don’t have to have alcohol but at least try for music and dancing.

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@nessa9116:  But do all of your friends/family not drink or dance? Not saying you can’t have a great wedding but if you want to throw an amazing wedding celebration I think you need to take into consideration the people you are inviting.

For example, I recently attended a vegan wedding- the couple did not eat meat. Well the food sucked and the guests were not happy! It still was a great wedding but the majority of guests eat meat not tofu. They had other fun things to compensate. ALL I am saying if you want your GUESTS to have a good time you need to take your GUESTS into consideration not just you as a couple, IMO.

All that being said. I don’t think any of us can answer this question for you since you know your guests better than any of us!

Post # 7
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2009

Darling Husband and I decided to not serve alcohol at our wedding, with the exception of our offering a choice of a small, single serving of champagne or sparkling cider for our formal toast (this was after the serving of heavy hors d’oeuvres and before our sit-down dinner.)  We did not want to have the type of atmosphere at our wedding that often results when people consume alcoholic beverages, and we did not want to be responsible for anyone making a choice to drink and drive and potentially harm themselves or others.

Instead, our open bar featured sodas, a variety of juices served in stemmed glasses, and iced tea.  We also put a ton of money into our amazing hors d’oeuvres and our delicious surf-and-turf dinner.  The vast majority of our guests had a fabulous time at our wedding and later raved about it. I did hear that one couple (very heavy drinkers) chose to leave early when they discovered that we weren’t having alcohol, and they certainly had the freedom to do that if it was that important to them to have a drink.

ETA: I should note that we did have dancing at our wedding.  However, I have been to a number of weddings that had neither alcohol nor dancing, and guests still seemed to enjoy themselves.

Post # 8
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I’m not having alcohol at my wedding either. If it doesn’t turn out the way your guests wanted it to then it’s okay. You know why you did it plus its cheaper πŸ™‚

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@Dell79:  I definitely agree that it’s not ALL about you, it’s about the guests too–but I also think that your guests for the most part are there not solely to have a good time, because they could go anywhere for that, but also to support the new couple and watch them committ their lives to each other! I think a wedding should be an authentic representation of the couple and if they don’t drink and don’t like alcohol for religious, moral, or any other reason, or it’s just not their thing, they should not be forced to serve it–same with meat. I’m definitely not a vegan, but I have eaten delicious vegan food: just like I don’t enjoy dancing and drinking, but I have been to weddings that had both because it fit the couple and had fun because they were having fun. With that being said, I’m definitely not completely disagreeing with you–just saying, like you said, that there are other ways to make the wedding great. Yeah, you might not have alcohol, but you can have other fun things to make your guests happy!

OP: We’re not having alcohol at our wedding, but we are having dancing (I didn’t want to, but my Fiance did). Actually, weddings traditionally didn’t have alcohol and dancing–that’s more recent (well in the last fifty years or so)…many started out in their church basements with cake and punch. With that being said, if you want more than a very brief cake and punch reception–which I still think can be perfectly fine–a daytime/brunch wedding is definitely a great way to go. My ceremony is at 1 followed by a late lunch, so if guests still want to have their evenings to go out they can definitely feel that they can! 

I’ve also seen fun things like board games, lawn games, party games, etc. at non-drinking/dancing weddings, and they’ve been a blast. But you definitely need to know your crowd for that and know if they’ll be up for it!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We didn’t have drinking or dancing at our wedding (though my husband and I did dance one song). The drinking was easy, because in our religious community nobody drinks, so every our friends of different faiths didn’t expect it. I was a little worried it would be boring, but we had plenty of good food and friends, everybody mingled and visited and seemed pretty happy. We did have a more come and go reception though, so nobody had to stay for any span of time. 

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

double post.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

We didn’t have drinking or dancing at our wedding. The key is to keep the reception short. Ours started at 2, and we walked out at 4:30. People had just enough time to mingle, eat, and we had more than enough time to greet all our guests, cut the cake, etc. We were in the minority, and didn’t want to spend our whole wedding day partying with family. We wanted to spend it together.

Post # 13
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We’re also planning a no drinking, no alcohol reception (it’s at a church that doesn’t allow it).  I’m a little bit worried, but I’m doing a couple things that will hopefully keep it from being a disappointment:

1.  Letting people know ahead of time so they aren’t expecting it

2.  Setting up activities (like Mad-libs and thumb-print guest book) and mixer-type things (for example, putting a list of “secrets”/random-facts about people at each table so that they can guess who is who; it’s a good conversation-starter)

3.  Making sure the food is VERY good

4.  Keeping it small so that it’s easy for us to introduce people to each other and check the temperature of the room to keep things moving.

*fingers crossed that it works!*

Post # 14
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

My Fiance and don’t drink and are also having a reception with no alcohol and no dancing….what we’re doing instead is having a lot of games, especially to give everyone something to do while we’re taking pics!  We have corn hole, our guest book is a jenga game they can sign, our favors are travel sized games and decks of cards…we are all about having good, clean fun at our reception and everyone has been super supportive!! [Most of my friends and family don’t drink or dance either, but his do; he’s almost the only one that doesnt! but they’ve all been super supportive and some are actually really looking forward to a fun evening with everyone, no alcohol or dancing which turns some people into…..well you know haha]
Good luck!!

Post # 16
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

The only alcohol at our wedding was for the toasts…we had a late morning wedding with lunch reception, so I don’t think anyone expected much alcohol.  None of our family or friends are big drinkers, and our wedding actually kick-started a family reunion on DH’s side, so a lot of family and friends used the time to talk and catch up.  πŸ™‚

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