(Closed) Tell me if this is wrong…

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
1315 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Ehhhh, it would depend on how many of your guests they’d already know/get on with, I guess. If numbers are not tight, feck it, you might as well, but if numbers are tight, they’d prob be the first to go.

Post # 4
58 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

You would be setting yourself up to be backstabbed again, and setting up the stage for drama. Move away, move on (sounds like you already have), don’t let yourself get emotional. People won’t change because you are getting married.

Post # 5
7975 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I would invite them, personally, if your guestlist has room for it! Just don’t seat them near each other 🙂 Maybe it’ll be a chance to mend fences! Plus, you don’t even know if they’ll RSVP yes – they might choose not to come on their own accord.

Post # 6
10851 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

I think if you’re not friends with either of these people any more than you shouldn’t invite them. That’s lovely that you met through them and you still have mutual friends, but if you haven’t talked in a year, two years, however long it’s been, you don’t owe them anything especially if they’ve proven themselves to be bad friends.

Post # 7
499 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I wouldn’t invite them. Do you really want to pay a per head charge for people you don’t even like anymore? You don’t owe them anything honestly. I understand they introduced you, but it’s not like you’re forever in their debt because of it. I’d save the money and leave them off the guest list or fill those two spaces with people you really care about! But I wouldn’t invite them.

Post # 8
1080 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2010

stick the thought on the backburner and MAYBE if there is room they could be on the C- list….Darling Husband and I didn’t invite anyone to our wedding that we hadn’t spoken to in 2 years…

Post # 9
3575 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

I agree @daydreamer…if your guestlist permits it, I would invite them. You never know what might happen.

Post # 10
401 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

If you are interested in being friends with either of these people again then invite them. If not I’d say skip it.

Post # 11
555 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

People meet other in lots of different ways.  I say if you’re not still friends then you don’t have to invite them.  I met my Fiance on Craigslist but that doesn’t mean I’m inviting the creator of Craigslist. 

Post # 12
1418 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

I would not invite them if we were not close friends anymore…simply because it is expensive and there are many other people I would prefer to have there instead.  However, if your guest list allows for a few more people, then maybe it would be nice to have them there, but I would put the must-invites on the ilst first and then see where you are at with numbers before you consider inviting them.

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