Post # 1
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Buzzing bee
My SO other told me yesterday “the ring is coming.” then smiled and left the room. So, while not engaged its on its way.
Well, I have fallen in love with a James Clifford dress. It reminds me of something vintage and almost Downton Abby / Titanic and well I am sorta an old fashioned girl. I found one online for 600 bucks.. The dress is 1,600. I have never tried it on, but I have worn clothes similar in style and know it would fit and look good on me. I also havent found any James Clifford used dresses for that price.
The thing is I know we won’t be able to have a big wedding cause we haven’t the $$ and we are too pratical with money. We are thinking about a house first. But the price tag is soooo good.
Someone talk me down from the cliff and tell me this is very stupid and that no I shouldn’t buy the dress. My emotinoal side says oh buy it! My pratical side sayd I’m dumb. 
Has anyone jumped the gun and bought a dress online that they never tried on? Or even before they were engaged?
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
Is this a deal that has a time limit?
My worry is your SO says the ring is coming, but how long from now? Like next week, next month, a year? you know? You don’t want to be staring at this dress for a long time without a ring in the picture. Also how would your SO feel if you bought the dress before he asked the question?
Post # 4
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Busy bee
No way, I personally wouldn’t ever buy a dress until that ring is on my finger! The ring may be “coming,” but my ring has been “coming” for about 6 months now lol. You never know how long he is planning to sit on it before he proposes! Not to mention I would want to try on a bunch of dresses to make sure it was really what I wanted. I don’t think you’re dumb, though! I would be tempted, too! But in the end, I wouldn’t do it.
Post # 5
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Busy Beekeeper
I agree I wouldn’t buy a dress now until that ring is on your finger.
Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
- Wedding: August 2013 - The Liberty House
Do it if you KNOW you want it! Have you tried on dresses at all?
Post # 7
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Bumble Beekeeper
@VictorianChick: I wouldn’t do it. It might freak your boyfriend out since he hasn’t proposed yet. Also, you’ve probably seen all the ‘dress regret’ posts on here. Yeah, it’s a good deal, but you don’t know if it’ll actually work for your wedding… not to mention that it might not fit at all. There will be other deals. You’re really jumping the gun. I know it’s tempting, but you should let it go and at least let him propose first.
Post # 8
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Sugar bee
No way. It’s important to try on different styles of dresses to see what looks best on you. Don’t order anything until you’ve tried on dresses in real life.
Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
I did this (without telling my then Boyfriend or Best Friend, now fiancé) and ended up having dress regret because the dress did not go with the venue we ended up picking. I’d say not to do it. Especially if you have not gone dress shopping yet!!!
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
I did this!!!! I fell in love with a lazaro that was 70% off and I had been looking for something like it for years (bI was the psycho girlfriend who looked at wedding stuff a year into the relationship) and the price tag was too good and the measurements fit me to a half inch. I did tell my then bf if he would be totally weirded out if I did. I told him the price discount, and while he did say it was odd he also said that I never do things the normal way anyways and it was a GREAT deal so just get it!
If you’re going to do it, just make 100% sure that you absolutely love it, that its exactly what you want (it helps if you dont change your mind easily) and that you clear it with him first.
Post # 11
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Busy bee
It sounds like you know your relationship well enough that getting the ring isn’t the issue. I think the issue is buying a dress sight unseen without trying it on… you will be on this board 4-6 months from now with the dreaded “dress regret” post for sure.. Don’t deny yourself the pleasure of the dress buying experience with your mom and friends. Deals like this do frequently come along. I say don’t do it….
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
I would go for it if you are certain the proposal is imminent, if you know your own style enough to trust that you wouldn’t fall victim to the dreaded dress regret, and if you have tried on dresses of a similar style and silhouette and know it would suit you. I bought my dress sight unseen online, but only after I had looked at a zillion dresses and tried on very similar styles.
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
I wouldn’t do it yet. I too was looking at dresses right before the engagement and thought I’d found the one. Well, months later my list of favorite dress styles is completely different from the one I originally wanted. Besides, half the fun of buying dresses is going with your family and BM’s and trying lots of them on 🙂
Post # 14
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Honey bee
I bought a dress without trying it on, but I was engaged.
Post # 15
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Busy bee
If it’s something you could return if it didn’t fit then I say go for it. If not, it’s better to try on stuff in stores, it can be really hard to judge what you’ll like before you try it on, also wedding gown sizing can be a little funky. Good luck! Post a pic once you order it!
