Post # 32
Big things: I would have made some details clearer in my contract with our reception venue. We had some issues with the bartenders/security that night that I thought I had already cleared up with the owner. Maybe made more time in between ceremony and reception.
Small things: Probably made a list of must have shots for my photographer. I haven’t seen our pro pics and the few sneek peeks she has given have been AWESOME, but I have a feeling we may have missed a few that I really wanted. Oh and I forgot to put pens out for our sign in book. whoops.
ETA: At the end of our ceremony the priest didnt say “You may now kiss the bride.” He just basically said now help me in congratulating the new MR. and MRS. I mean we were married in a catholic church but I always thought that was part of the ceremony. Any other bees this happened to?
Post # 33
I would have started hair and makeup earlier so it wasn’t a massive rush before the ceremony snd so I didn’t forget to put on my jewellery or peticoat (I managed to complete the outfit after the ceremony).
I also would have got the photographer to take a picture of the back of my dress which was gorgeous but I have no pictures of and one of my hand with my gorgeous nails and rings.
I also would have been more specific about who was responsible for paying the band as they didn’t get paid. This wasn’t a problem as they are friends of mine so I paid them afterwards.
Oh and I would have practiced putting on the processional so I didn’t walk down the aisle to some random song!
Saying that, if it had been perfectly organised, it wouldn’t have ben my wedding. Nothing that went wrong mattered and everyone had a wonderful and fun time which is what I cated about.
Post # 34
@mylittleviolett: I never got to dance with my grandpa. It was hard because he has alzheimers and he didnt know who I was that day.
Post # 35
Flowers. I was super picky about the two pictures I brought the florist (a dearly, wonderful lady). But the flowers she did were different than the pictures. She had similar elements, but they were different. I should have recognized my pickiness earlier and gone into. Ride mode. I should have said “I want these exact flowers. The pots. How they are arranged. They types of flowers. Everything.” they were lovely. But just not really what I wanted.
Post # 36
I would have spent more time with more people at the reception (to the extent possible); I feel like I didn’t talk enough with some people.
I also would have a photo of me and my sister, and me and my sister and my parents. Somehow neither of those happened (but she was also weirdly AWOL most of the evening… whatever).
I wish we had eaten more food at the reception, or had more food in our ‘doggie bag’ for later that night. It was frickin’ delicious, but I barely ate during the reception and then my mom didn’t pack us that much for when we were starving when we got to the hotel. Oh well.
I also wish we had some type of videographer, even if it was just a friend on their iphone, for the ceremony and for the speeches.
Hindsight is 20/20!
Post # 38
I would have nominated someone to take care of little things:
1) I forgot to give my parents/IL’s their corsages and bouts which were delivered to the venue
2) We forgot ot put a pen out with the guest book.
I also would have called my photographer immediately when she was supposed to arrive. She wasn’t late but couldn’t come up to our suite because of the hotel security. It took her 15 minutes to get up there and then we were rushed getting ready and out the door.
Post # 39
I would have made sure that the sound system was working so we could hear the music properly, i didnt care but it bothered my moh and she still talks about it so i dont like hearing about it.
i would have gotton my dress taken in a little it was a bit big (not something worth complaining about lol)
i would have danced (we didnt dance we were having too good a night hanging out)
i would have not gotten cranky at my sister for not making her bed, she stayed at my house the night before, i was stressed and flew off the handle and I made her cry and i know its sounds weird but it was my only bridezilla moment and i still feel horrible because it was such a dumb reason to be angry at her i still feel like horrible when i think about it.
Post # 40
Oh and i would have kicked my sil out of the bridal party and had my friend mel instead.
My sil made life hell and i felt really bad for not having Mel in the bridal party, she is one of my closest friends and her h2b was in the bridal party, i should have just had her.
Post # 41
I actually tell everyone my wedding was perfect, but I would have done a few things differently… but to be honest, I don’t think about it at all.
– I would have been more assertive about people not seeing me before the wedding. It was cold outside and people kept coming into the place where the reception was, which was the only place I could be before the wedding… I wish I would have had someone get them out because people kept coming up to me… and I was nervous!
– I would have made my DJ try pronouncing everyone’s name at least once. He butchered EVERYONE’s names. Even mine.
– I would have verified the officiant had the right vows… She had the wrong ones… I had edited them and she didn’t have my edits 🙁
– I would have reminded my vendors that I’m not changing my name. I was called Mrs. Finch all night.. which was actually fine, just confusing for the guests because I had told them all I wasn’t changing my name.
Otherwise it was really perfect! And now I’m going to go back to thinking my wedding was perfect!
Post # 42
@mylittleviolett: I would have changed our photographer. She was an amateur wedding photographer at best and it showed in a lot of her work. I assumed since she did a great job on the engagement photos, she’d do a great job on the wedding photos, wrong! She had shot many individuals and couples but never a wedding.
Post # 43
I would have hired a videographer. We haven’t even got our teaser pics back from the photographer, so maybe I’ll feel better with some pics to look at. At least we have non-pro video of our incredible choregraphed first dance, but none of the ceremony : ( I have no idea why i didn’t think it was important???
I would have had the bust of my dress re-altered last minute b/c I lost a few lbs and it felt like it was slipping/gaping all night.
I wish we thought to double check with the dj that he was using the same exact version of processional music as the one we rehearsed with. It was NOT and the music ended as I was like halfway down the aisle and then he tried to fill it in and somehow accidentally played a few seconds of recessional music. My fiance did check minutes before the start, but the info was not relayed to me in time : ( That is the single thing I am most unhappy about the whole wedding. Like seriously how hard it is!! Hit play, hit pause. It is not brain surgery!
Post # 44
I would’ve hired a different DJ. People were still dancing and having fun, but he didn’t abide by the “do not play” list and we had to ask him to change the music a couple of times.
Post # 45
I wore the Sottero & Midgley JSM1103
Now, I would of picked something less structured. I really look the ethereal style dresses, such as Jenny Packham – Willow.
Post # 46
I would have done the reception exactly as we wanted to. No dance, mingling and background music with friends and family, finish at 11pm, and then off to do our twilight fun and photographs with anyone who wanted to. I was nagged and bothered about the darn dance till I caved. The dance was a bust, and we ended up mingling and finishing the way we wanted, but some people were confused that people weren’t dancing. I didn’t notice it at all during the night, but I felt bad later on that my MC and bridesmaids tried hard to make a great playlist and get the crowd dancing when it was and always had been simply the wrong. crowd. for. it. What a waste of time preparing it.
Every now and then, I think about it and it sticks in my craw. ALWAYS trust your gut instincts. Not every wedding has to fit a formula. And that’s it! I loved everything else about our day and night.