(Closed) Tell me ONE thing you'd change

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Post # 47
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

No bridal party. It has been almost 3 months, and I’m still pretty pissed off at my Maid/Matron of Honor for all of the stress she put on me the whole time she was there. 

Post # 48
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013 - Pavilion at Rocky Neck State Park

I would have forced my husband to have a smaller wedding to begin with (I wanted 50-70) he wanted 120+ Because I know his family and (as bad as it sounds) they really are flakes. Out of about 80 invited I think about 15 from his side showed up and 12 people who RSVP-Ed didn’t even show up. We still haven’t heard anything from any of them. No apology or anything (keep in mind these we’re close friends who wanted to come when we talked to them). 

The only other thing I would have changed was to get dressed a bit earlier because we did run out of time pretty quickly.

Other than those two small things it really was a perfect day ๐Ÿ™‚

 

Post # 49
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I would change two things..

1) Our wedding dj. Don’t get me wrong he wasn’t awful by any means. He played good music, he was insanely friendly and helpful, and he was free. But he was more of a low key play the music and let it be kind of dj and I would have gone with a dj who really got out there and mingled, got people out of their comfort zone, and never let things stop.

We did have a photobooth so there were times when lots of people were doing that but we had moments were no one was on the dance floor and that made me a bit sad. Granted every single person has told us it was the most wonderful wedding they’ve been to but…well yeah I’d definitely change that.

 

2) A former coworker of mine is breaking into videography and we really wanted someone to video our wedding but didn’t want to pay the $$$$ so we asked him. The day of the wedding he called and said he wouldn’t be there. No real reason and I haven’t spoken to him since. I have zero video footage of our wedding and that make me sad.

Post # 50
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@xoxovmarie:  Oh no, I dont regret that at all. I refused to do a first look. The look on his face when he turned around (pastor had him stand with his back to me until I was in the middle of the aisle closer to him) was priceless. He was trying to so hard not to cry…but the drama of it all made me cry a little…then he cried a little! I just wish we had had more than 35 minutes for pictures, we got a lot of family..which as I stated was my biggest regret since I forgot to include my husband in the big family ones.  But also that we only got around 4-5 good shots before the sun went down of just DH and I.  But I have a portrait sessions still with my photog and I will have DH get a tux again for this photo shoot. 

Post # 51
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@SweetHoneyBee:  That sucks about your video guy.  We couldnt afford the extra for a videographer as well and Fiance was going to just use his very nice DSLR camera to video it.  It worked fine til he forgot to erase what was on his already half full SD card so we only got the first 13 minutes of our ceremony.  That last 4-5 mins werent captured (The kiss, announced as Mr and Mrs., walk down the aisle…etc) 

Post # 52
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

The only thing I’d change is my dress.  While I liked the dress, I really got it because it was my husband’s favorite dress on me.  It was really uncomfortable (I’m a yoga pants kind of girl) being in a long dress all night.  A part of me wishes that I would’ve just gotten a light, cream colored bridesmaid dress.  I got so frustrated with trying to walk/dance in it that I ended up cutting it off mid way through my reception.

Post # 53
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Bumble bee

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@MrsGatito:  Thank you, doll.

Like I said, I was a bit ragey the other day about it, and pretty much angry at everyone — the lady herself, tht neither the best man or groom didn’t correct it, the people who were stage managing, my mother for not finding a better place to stand, myself for not fopreseeing something like this can happen. Hell, I was even mad at my 15 year old neice, who is standing in front of my mother in the one picture of have of her during the actual ceremony.

But the fact is, this woman may have been stupid in what she did, but she didn’t do it maliciously.  The thought of our photos probably never entered in her mind.  Likewise, my husband and best man were no doubt too excited to notice or care about a detail like that.  My mother likewise would have been feeling those same things and hence didn’t give any consideration to where she stood.

So, while I do feel disappointed looking at the pictures — and there were a couple of other things I was disappointed with — at the end of the day I try to remind myself that from the moment I woke up, until I fell into bed with my new husband, it was a fantastic day and not once did that big, stupid grin come off my face, or his.  No one set out to wreck my pictures, and to be pissy about now is pointless. This woman would feel terrible if she knew how upset I was about it.  It’s over and done with, I can’t go back and fix it, and it’s not worth tainting my memory of that spectacular day by fixating on a few pictures that I can’t include in my album or print.

(This is why rather than go home and question my husband, or my Mother-In-Law on how the hell she ended up sitting there in the first place, and why didn’t anyone move her, I just went home and went to bed.  I find for me, a good sleep and some time brings things back into perspective for me.)

Post # 54
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think my biggest (and probably only) regret was not splurging on a videographer.  We had decided that it wasn’t that important to us, and I’ll still stand by that decision.  However, there are days when i’ll see other people’s wedding videos, and i’ll ache for one of my own a little bit.  But at the end of the day, we did have people with video cameras and they captured all of the important moments – so maybe someday I can take those moments someplace and they can combine them into something a little more professional for us. ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I wish I’d made sure to get some photos that were missed… not really of certain people but more of certain poses.  I’m disappointed that we literally only have one photo of our actual wedding party and it’s just of us standing all side by side.  I think it’s bc we had an  uneven number on his side vs my sideand photog didn’t get very creative…. but I specifically sent my photog some inspirational photos and she didn’t incorporate any of those ๐Ÿ™ I kinda was aware of it at the time but b/c things were moving so fast I didn’t say anything and I realize now that I should have!

I would have also ordered less food… We had a buffet and we threw away sooooo many trays of yummy food!  People wanted to take it with them but most were staying in hotels so they had no place to put it…… AND I would have made plans for our centerpieces.  They were gorgeous but at the end of the night most were just thrown away!  So sad….

Post # 56
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

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@Rubbs:  Interesting, I was actually nervous about having a long amount of time between ceremony and reception.  Why did you feel you needed the extra hour?

Post # 57
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

i would have hired a different DJ. i hated him.  

And i would have stood up to my Mother-In-Law because her stubborn and pushy attitude royally pissed me off and caused my Fiance and i to argue the night before our freaking wedding.  

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@mylittleviolett:  I would make sure I got pictures with everyone i cared about and would have pushed to spend more time getting them with my fiance, even if it meant missing some of the dinner. 

Because It rained and was windy after the ceremony everyone scattered and it cut down on picture time. Pictures were thus really rushed and people were hard to track down. I wish i had made it more of a priority and it is the biggest regret that I am having a really hard time getting over. ๐Ÿ™

Post # 59
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@sn2bmrsmntgmry:  + 1 to the pictures. I think i realized some things werent getting down on some level. But everything is so crazy you just don’t feel there is time to speak up about it. 

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

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@foreverthine:  + 1. Def should have made a people to get photos with list and I wish I had openend gifts with bridesmaids when we were all dressed so i had photos where everyone looked their best.

Post # 61
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Honey bee

  1. I would have taken sleeping pills leading up to the wedding. I got 2-3 hours of sleep per night and woke up at 2am everyday for a week worrying about everything that needed to get done. By the time the wedding rolled around I felt like a total zombie.
  2. I would have been more clear to our photographer on EXACTLY what pictures I wanted. He got some, but missed some big ones that were on my list.
  3. I would have medicated my mother. She drove me complately INSANE, yelled at me, and caused a lot of unnecessary drama. I didnt speak to her for several months after my wedding.

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