Tell me positive stories and PLEASE put my mind at ease

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 17
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I am not very familiar with fertility treatment, but if I were you, I would call to discuss things with your doctor.  There is probably a valid reason they didn’t want you to test yet.  Also, they may be able to get you a generic or different brand of meds, or a coupon, discount program, or something to help with the meds cost.  Fingers crossed things start working out for you soon.

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

If you’re not close to your missed period date then testing now won’t do much but bum you out.  The soonest I saw a postive was 10 DPO. I have PCOS and wasn’t ovulating, took 18 months to get my first baby. Hang in there!

Post # 21
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

daniellemc :  a day or two can make all the difference! My first pregnancy I tested negative until 11dpo and I tested negative at 11am and positive (obvious positive) at 6pm that night so a matter of HOURS!

With my second pregnancy I tested negative at 8dpo, negative at 9dpo in the am, super duper squinter at 9dpo in the afternoon and BFP at 10 dpo in the morning. 

9dpo is SO early, I believe most people (80% I think?) implant on 9dpo so you are more likely to get a negative today! 

I know how frustrating it is, try to stay positive. 

Post # 23
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

daniellemc :  my pleasure. Trying to have a baby can be a very lonely and upsetting experience and I found talking to other women in my situation helped me so much. 

I have everything crossed for you, here to support you no matter which way it goes ❤️

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

daniellemc :  But even 10 DPO is still really early, so if you’re testing at 9 and hoping to see something you’ll probably just end up bummed about an answer that may not be right. I know it’s hard to wait, and I know all of the meds/tests/procedures suck (I did all of that too for several months) but it will all be worth it. Waiting a few more days for accurate results are what’s reccomended for a reason. I tested at 9 DPO and had a big ‘ol negative then the next morning I got a postitive, so even 1 day can make a big difference.  But some don’t get a postitive until days later so don’t bum yourself out before you have your blood test because that is the most accurate. 

Post # 25
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

oh gosh, I totally agree that you shouldn’t count yourself out yet!  I had a complete, total, stark white BFN on 9dpo, and even when I retested and got a BFP on 12dpo it was still light on a wondfo test.  And if you are getting the supplemental progesterone it means it was low BUT high enough that they know you ovulated which with PCOS is a huge thing to start! Once you start ovulating you basically become an average fertile person, and it still takes a healthy couple a few tries usually before it works so as devastating as a BFN would be it really isn’t a sign that next month won’t be a BFP — but you’re not even there yet so let’s cross that bridge only if we have to!

Post # 26
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

daniellemc :  So, here’s the thing. Fertility treatments and medications are no joke in terms of cost. But as someone who has spent a small fortune, done a handful of medicated cycles, 6 IUI, 2 egg retrievals and 2 FET cycles – and am now 35 weeks pregnant – it is worth it. I know this probably isn’t what you want to hear, but your doctor is prescribing these medications for your benefit – NOT taking them (due to cost) will possibly harm the outcome of your cycle, unfortunately. If you DO end up pregnant, it’s likely that you will have to stay on these meds for the first 12 weeks (so..adding more to the cost). Because the reality is, if your body isn’t producing it, you won’t sustain a pregnancy unless you somehow continue to take these meds.

With that being said – if I were in your shoes, I would advocate a little bit harder to not only confirm the timing of your IUI but ovulation as well (add a trigger, because as we all know, CM and just seeing a large follicle on the US doesn’t necessarily confirm O for that time). My thoughts are: if your progesterone was low after you thought you were 7DPO….then one of two things: you were not on a strong enough dose of femara and had a “weak” ovulation, or you did not actually ovulate when they expected you did, and your progestrone was lower when they tested. The great thing about fertility meds is that you can manipulate your ovulation, right? I had low-ish progesterone and a short LP, but once we figured out the right dose of femara, my body was able to ovulate more than one egg, increasing the natural progesterone I produced. Regardless, my RE always had me take additional progesterone supplements after any medicated/manipulated cycle, because not doing so was more harmful than taking them.

Additionally, there are other types of progesterone you could ask your RE about. Some of the oral and vaginal suppositories are MUCH less expensive than endometerin and if your doctor thinks it is possible they could be effective, its worth a try.

Post # 29
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Busy bee

daniellemc :  I’m sorry you’re having to go through this. I just had my first failed IUI last months as well. I thought I would be okay since I am so used to seeing negatives, but I guess I just built it up in my head more than I realized.  I was devastated when I started bleeding 2 days early WHILE ON progesterone. 😩I laid in bed the whole day and stayed off my social media for almost a week.

I know it’s not very helpful right now, but one day you will be looking at your beautiful baby and all of this will be worth it. Hopefully that day is soon for you. Sending lots of love your way!

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