(Closed) Tell me that things will be okay…

posted 6 years ago in TTC
Post # 3
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883 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

The best thing that I can tell you….You aren’t promised tomorrow, so just for today, have faith and trust that everything will be alright. Live one day at a time. : ) hope this helps!

Post # 4
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5479 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

I am getting married this May and am planning on having a baby soon after. The only problem is, is that I am quitting my job right after my school ends, at the end of May, and am looknig for job that actually treats me well, good pay, and has benefits. I am nervous about this because I don’t know how the employer will react to me being pregnant after about five months of working there (we plan on TTC around September). 

Anyway, I know it’s too soon to worry, but I know this is the plan that I have to take. I have Poly syndrome and I only have so long to conceive. And, to make things even more grand at my job, they tend to fire 8 month pregnant women frequently

Anyway, have any of you been in this situation before, and is there any advice?

 

^^Isn’t that illegal??? 

Regadring the situation should you get another job:  look into the requirements for FMLA.  I think you have to be with a company or in a position for so many months before you’re eligible to use FMLA benefits but I’m not sure about the specifics.  It is available though, and it guarantees that your job will be there when you get back from maternity leave. 

Post # 5
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9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Hold your horses! I wouldn’t be factoring any part of a theoretical pregnancy into your job plans right now. You might get pregnant right away, it might take a while for you to conceive. You just have no way of knowing which it will be, so there is really no point in analyzing the “what ifs” of getting fired at 8 months (it’s unlawful to fire someone for being pregnant anyway). There’s nothing that will even guarantee you’ll be able to find a job that hits all your requirements within that time frame either, given the current economy (are you in the US?) It took my husband almost a year to land his current job.

For now my advice is to go after the job you want regardless of anything else, and let things take their course. There isn’t a whole lot you can do beyond that.

Post # 7
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11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

If you get pregnant 5 months after working there it’ll be another 9 before you’re on leave. 14 months is a totall acceptable period of time to work some place before maternity leave. I would really not worry about this. Your TTC plans are none of their business. 

Post # 8
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1110 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

They can’t fire you for being pregnant but I understand it is a real fear. I found out I was pregnant about 4 hours after my interview and tried to keep it secret as long as possible because I thought once the cat was out of the bag I would start getting written up for stupid things so they could fire me. That hasn’t happened yet and so far everyone is fine about it, including my managers. I understand that you’re trying to have all your ducks in a row before TTC but I think you’re worrying yourself over something you can’t control entirely. As far as leave goes, where I live I get 8 weeks of leave because I’m a new employee, and people who have worked there for more than a year get 12 weeks. I don’t think it’s cost effective for companies to fire pregnant women, hire a temp, find a new employee and pay to train them just to avoid giving a woman their maternity leave. In the long run, I bet leave is cheaper.

Here is a document I used to see what my rights were in my state, it could help to calm your anxieties if you know your rights 🙂

http://www.nationalpartnership.org/site/DocServer/ParentalLeaveReportMay05.pdf?docID=1052

Post # 10
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146 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was interviewing for a new position when I found out I was pregnant.  They didn’t mind at all, and have been super accomidating of bad days and dr’s appts.  It really depends on the company.  They were just glad that I told them up front before they even gave me the final offer.  

If you aren’t pregnant and just TTC, I wouldn’t mention it.  I don’t have any health problems and it still took us over a year to get pregnant.  I wouldn’t worry about it until it happens.

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