(Closed) Tell me this isnt ludacris !

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

perhaps thats all you can do .. is move on.

i think you are right not to write the nasty message

Post # 4
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46336 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Just move on. Sometimes there comes a point in life where maintaining a friendship takes more energy than it is worth.

 

Post # 5
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5977 posts
Bee Keeper

It sounds as if your friendship is very one sided. I think this is a perfect time to let the friendship run it’s course. If she doesn’t want to be a part of your life, then be happy that it will now be drama free!

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

Honestly I would just move on from it. IF someone rsvps no to an event I dont really think they have to explain themselves. Some friends drift apart over time, its normal and even expected in some cases

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: March 2012

I dealt with the samething.. Sometimes when a person is a childhood friend you out grown them.  Although, it’s hard to let go…you have to do whats going to make YOU happy and stressfree.

She may come along..but..girl….don’t worry about it.
I ended up sending the person an email just stating how I felt.  That way..I could have a peace of mind..

People’s expectation of a friend can sometimes be FAR beyond what your willing to give or even need to give.

Let’s face it..they are not your boyfriend, FH or paying your bills.

So, why must one give so much or yet alone have those high expectations…

So my advice…”let go”

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

@helenberrycrunch:  Sorry to threadjack but I LOVE that man!  Lol.

OP – It may be helpful to write a letter to this friend laying it all out and then burn it before sending.  Just a little something I do sometimes and it helps to get it out of my head (and heart).  Good luck to you with your upcoming wedding.

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

@helenberrycrunch: That is ludacris.

OP’s story is ludicrous.

Post # 13
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11168 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

Let the friendship go, and I use that word very loosely. If it isn’t give and take then it isn’t a healthy relationship.

I had to let a friend go and while at first it is frustrating and painful eventually you will enjoy being drama free. Just think of all the additional time you will have to spend with people that appreciate you and your friendship.

As for the letter write it if you must to get it all out, but don’t send it. Sending it will only make you look like the bad guy in the situation when we clearly know you aren’t at fault.

 

Post # 15
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1088 posts
Bumble bee

As other posters have said, just move on.  With wedding planning and a baby, you’ve got WAY bigger fish to fry.  If she didn’t talk to you about why she was upset, that’s her problem.  You can’t be a mind reader.

Obviously if you’ve invited her be a part of your special day and she declined, that’s her problem.  I don’t mean to be offensive here, but In My Humble Opinion, if she were truly your friend, being upset over something so trivial as baby clothes wouldn’t prevent her from attending your wedding. 

I say stop racking your brain trying to figure out what you did wrong because it sounds like this girl has issues.  If there was a problem at some point, she should have appropriately addressed it so you could acknowledge it, and move on.  Planning a wedding can be stressful, and you don’t need any other stresses in your life right now.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@helenberrycrunch: & @GoldfishPie: i love you both so hard right now.

OP, I’m sorry that your flaky, dramatic friend sucks – definitely drop her from your life, you have a child of your own to worry about without her acting like one!

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