(Closed) Tell me to stop being a brat.

posted 6 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 78
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Personally, if it were me, I wouldn’t invite her. If she asks why, you can just say that you had to cut the guest list down.

 

Post # 79
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Am I the only one who would want to respond to that post, something like, what’s so bad about getting married at 23? I think the woman needs to be aware of how social media works.

And guess what? Facebook DOES matter. To the pp who sait it didn’t, would you brush it off if someone posted a racial slur.

 

Post # 80
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 2019 - Canada

@208bride:  Oh man, This woman is a mess! I would ABSOLUTELY be choked if i were you, and think you are completely within your rights to not invite her. I’d probably text my friend and say “wtf, you mom just totally dissed me on FB” lol

Post # 81
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297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@208bride:  alright, well now that I have more of a back story, I would just say don’t invite her. It sounds like it would be for the best for all parties involved. Especially if your dad doesn’t even like her!

Good luck!

Post # 83
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Honey Beekeeper

@208bride:  And how do I know she meant “OR” and not “AND?” Because we all speak English and communicate efficiently. She meant “or” otherwise she would have written “and.” Simple enough.

When you are talking about ruining a relationship, or assuming ill intent, the least you could do is double check.  You know the old joke about what happens when you assume?   You make an ass of you and me?  It could have been a “simple enough” typo.  If not, then at least you are reacting based on  accurate information.

Post # 84
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166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Slightly (well completely) off topic here, but in defence of this lady’s daughter, I’m not sure why some posters are jumping to the conclusion that she’s jealous of OP getting married based on her mother’s FB status. Or worse, that being single means there’s something wrong with her/nobody is interested in her. Seriously? Unless I’ve overlooked something, OP hasn’t mentioned whether or not this girl is dating anyone, & even if she isn’t, that doesn’t make her some tragic spinster. For all we know she could be turning down proposals right, left & centre!

There are definitely people who are ready to get married at 23. My own parents are a prime example. However there are plenty of people at that age for whom marriage is simply not a priority. To assume they are envious every time an acquaintance lands a ring is laughable.

And end rant!

 

Post # 86
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166 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@208bride:  The daughter sounds fun. Any chance you could give the her the mother’s invite? 😉

Post # 87
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2014 - Prague

I think it depends on what you know of her outside this post of hers (which is thoughtless at best and rude at worst),

 

Is this typical behavior from her? or…Is it *possible* that her daughter is sort of a f*ck up and maybe needs to be congratulated? As in, maybe she’s getting her life together or something? AND the mother is so thoughtless or spaced out that she didn’t realize you might see that post and how it would be interpreted? Just trying to give her the benefit of the doubt.  Will it make you in any way sad not to invite her? If so, and if you can take the high road… then invite her. But If not, and considering she lives far away and isn’t in your life, I might go with your mom’s advice and not invite her.  

ETA: NM, saw page two and it sounds like the daughter is fine. It just sounds like the mom is thoughtless.

Post # 88
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

LOL at all the people screaming JEALOUSY.  No, the lady is just a bitch.  I doubt she’s jealous of anything, she’s just an insensitive ass.  And a lot of you are being awfully mean about her daughter, who is completely innocent in this.  I bet she’ll have someone who wants to marry her when she’s good and ready.  Just because she’s not getting married at 23 doesn’t mean she’s some hag with cobwebs sprouting from her vag Undecided

Post # 89
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Newbee
  • Wedding: February 2014

Be a brat…

Post # 90
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

Hmm,

Maybe the woman really sees marriage as a “mistake”, not because you are getting married so young.. but just because it seems like half of all marriages end in divorce these days.. with many women being divorced more than once!

I don’t think you’re being a brat though.

You really have 2 options.. don’t send her an invite and let her figure out what she did wrong [or just flat out tell her]… or.. invite her anyway because you care enough for her to be there.

Post # 91
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Honey bee

You don’t need that kind of negativity, at your wedding. You want people there to share your joy, not gather ammunition for further public attacks. Why would she even attend, if she thinks getting married at 23 is stupid? Sadly, your mother still has sympathy, for this woman: she’s clearly not worth it.

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