(Closed) Tell me ways you've turned your lives around, Bees

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Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

To be honest, I recently sought help for depression and anxiety, and it saved my life. I wanted to share this for those who may have experienced or are currently experiencing mental health issues because you can get better! Take time to care for yourself! 

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I decided to seek help to recover from Anorexia!

And that has COMPLETLY changed my life.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I used to be a real b-word, because I basically thought that everyone was either dumber than me and not worth my time, or if they weren’t dumb, then they were weird and would never be able to relate to me. So I was alone and treated people like garbage. But I made a conscious decision not to have that attitude anymore, and now I’m married, surrounded by amazing friends, closer than ever with my family, and one seriously happy camper!

Post # 6
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

I survived a violent, abusive childhood (quite honestly – if my mother had done it in this decade and not the 70s/80s, she’d be in jail).  Struggled with depression and self hatred – finally got the help I needed.

I like the person I am now.  Never in a million years did I ever think I’d be able to say that.

I agree completely with seevan07 – seek help if you are struggling with it.  There’s absolutely no shame in it.  Depression is a real medical issue.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

I signed up to weight watchers this week thanks to the encouragement of some lovely bees.

Post # 8
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585 posts
Busy bee

I used to give waaaaay too much power to what other people thought I should be doing. I made some huge mistakes mostly because it was what people around me approved of. And worst of all, I was too afraid to have an honest conversation with myself about my choices. I was dependent. I did not have the life that made me happy because I was too busy living for other people.

Nowadays I am totally independent, and think very carefully about every decision I make (to the point of stressing over it). If you don’t like me or my choices, I really don’t care. I finally realized the importance of being who I am and doing what is right for me. I have true friends now who take me for who I am. I’ll be damned if I ever live my life for someone else’s opinion anymore. Such a waste of time.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

@abirdword:  I chose to forgive the people who have hurt me the most. I don’t feel burdened by my past anymore. It’s very liberating to feel removed from these people and I don’t regret cutting them out of my life.  I also chose to go back and finish up on my nursing degree. It’s a self esteem booster to accomplish something so significant. I felt left behind by everyone else who became successfull while all I had to show for it was a failed marriage and a career I wasn’t proud of.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

@frogprincess:  I really like this and am working on this myself. It’s so easy to get caught up in what others are doing in their lives and what they might think about our lives. (especially with facebook and such). That’s a miserable way to be!

Post # 11
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18643 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2009

I am finally almost pain free for the first time in 7 years.  It took multiple doctors, surgeries, and not giving in when doctors wanted to give up!

Post # 12
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764 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I used to spend large amounts of money (think car payment sized) on cocaine. One day, yeeeears ago, I decided to stop. Haven’t been near it since then.

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2012

  • Quitting high school my sophmore and junior year, but went back my senior year and graduated.
  • Getting off of all the toxic medications for bipolar/depression and learning to deal with certain things myself.
  • Stopped drinking and smoking cold turkey.
  • Got away from toxic family members.

Post # 14
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

  • Quitting smoking (though, I’ve relapsed and need to get back on the wagon. It was, by far, one of the most difficult and rewarding decisions I’ve ever made.  I am looking forward to the benefits of quitting again).
  • Learning how to forgive others for how they’ve treated me in the past.
  • Learning how to like the person I am.  I’ve dealt with a lot of self-loathing throughout my adolescence and early adulthood.  I’m happy to say that I do truly like the person I am now.

Post # 15
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2013

@abirdword:  I was terrified to speak in public. TERRIFIED. Ever since I was a little kid. I’d turn beet red and just do a horrendous job. A few years ago I realized that I needed to conquer my fear once and for all or I wouldn’t get far in life since at some point you will always have to do public speaking. My job also changed and the new role required lots of public speaking.

I joined a speaking club and it helped me tremendously. Slowly but surely I am improving, and now I’m even a VP on the board. I mentor others in the club – especially new members. I’m by no means a public speaking expert, and it still scares me, but I am proud of myself for doing better, and happy to help others who feel the same way as I did.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2019

I started saying ‘no’ to people. For the past five years I have been busting my ass to make everyone happy except for myself, so I’ve started turning people down when they ask me to do things. Because even though they say they appreciate what I do, they really flipping don’t.

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