Post # 1
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Summary: Trying to decide between Sunday of LBD weekend or the Saturday the weekend after. 90% of guests are out of town, many will be flying 6 hours, many will be driving from 2 hours away. Nobody has school-aged children.
If we pick Sunday of LBD weekend, no one will have to miss work. If we pick Saturday of the weekend after a decent chunk of guests will have to miss work on Friday and the bridal party might have to miss 2 days of work (which I’m not keen on).
It is in a major U.S. city (think Boston, Philadelphia, San Francisco, Atlanta, etc.) We picked it because guests flying will be able to take a direct flight in and avoid connections, and it’s within driving distance of the elderly guests. Fiance grew up there, but the primary motivation was convenience for guests.
If you were a guest, which would you prefer?
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
I think the Sunday of a 3 day weekend would be good (although I’m biased as that’s what I chose lol)
As you say, it gives a day either side for travel, without having to book it off work necessarily 🙂
As long as you give guests plenty of notice so that they can sort out flights/accomodation and make sure that they don’t book holidays for that weekend, you should be fine 🙂
Post # 3
My advice would be to avoid the holiday weekend. I say that because we went to a wedding over Memorial Day weekend, and it was an utter nightmare. The traffic was terrible driving to, and from the event, the hotel which had blocked rooms for guests didn’t want to give us our room since they could sell it at regular price, there was a huge event in town which tied up the already awful traffic, and we had trouble finding a restaurant that wasn’t packed for the non- wedding meals. Personally I would never attend a holiday weekend wedding again. I think if more guests were in town residents it could work though.
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2017 - historical mansion
If the wedding were in my own city, I could go, but FWIW I had to work on Saturday and Monday of Labor Day weekend this year so there’s no way I could go to an out-of-town LDW wedding. Also, as others have pointed out, flights, hotels, and traffic are also usually a lot worse on holiday weekends.
Post # 5
Here is the thing. There is always a guest that your way is not convenient for them. There is the guest that says “I work weekends, Friday is best.” There is the guest that is Jewish and can not travel on Saturdays and so does not want the Friday wedding. There is the guest that likes a holiday weekend, there is the guest that does not want their family time interrupted. You can not please them all. So, choose the option that is most liked for your must have people and yourself. The others will accept the inconvenience for the sake of watching your marriage or they will not. But whether it is the date, the location, the food you serve, anything – some one will have a problem. I wasted so much time to think of solutions to please every one. It is a waste of time. My wedding planning life was so much better when I stopped asking people what they want and think instead what I want.
Post # 6
We attended SIL’s wedding last LDW and it was awful as far as travel was concerned. I work on commission and had to take that whole weekend off and missed out on some potential sales, so not everyone has that weekend off. My husband had to work Labor Day itself so we flew home Sunday night. The airports were much more crowded than a non holiday weekend. We stayed with another Brother-In-Law but people that booked the hotel blocks did have trouble as the hotel originally did not honor the block price and it caused a lot of stress for the bride and groom. We almost missed the rehearsal dinner because we had rented a car and the rental agency gave it away, despite us confirming our confirmation the day prior. Overall it was a hot mess, but we did have a nice time at the wedding itself.
I would only do it again for a very close friend or family. And only if I didn’t have to fly.
Post # 7
I think when planning wedding you have to do what works for you and your fiancé. There is always going to be someone that can’t come or won’t come because of whatever factor. You’ll never be able to please every guest.
Post # 8
I don’t mind going to a wedding on Labor Day weekend. But like PPs have stated, you’ll never be able to make every guest happy. Do what works best for you, your fiancé, and any VIPs.
Post # 9
MOST people do get LDW off, so all these people saying they had to work it aren’t necessarily representative of your whole invite list. Also, anyone who works LDW probably has to work other weekends too, so that’s a moot point…
I had a friend get married on a Sunday night on a non-holiday weekend and that was a huge hassle. A Sunday on a holiday weekend would be way easier. Hotels, etc can be more expensive though.
There are pros and cons to both scenarios. Talk to your VIP guests and pick the date that works the best for most of them.
Post # 10
I don’t mind a Labor Day wedding. I was once invited to a Black Friday wedding & declined because with travel expenses and family obligations it was too stressful.
Post # 11
To respond to some, I’m familiar with the jobs of our guests, including plus ones, and with two exception (an EMT and a medical resident) they aren’t required to work holiday weekends. None do commission jobs or shift work (except the EMT).
We plan go do our reception at a hotel (which will cost $20K) so i would be surprised if they didn’t honor our room block considering the money we will be spending.
Post # 12
Sunday of Labor Day weekend is a good day for a wedding. As a guest, I appreciate the day on either side of the wedding to travel rather than having to rush out on the Friday, and the prices for hotel/gas/airfare are not as outrageous as Memorial Day weekend. Plus for you, you would get a 3-day weekend for your anniversary most years which is a good excuse to take an anniversary trip!
Post # 13
Just came back from a labor day weekend wedding. I thought it was great. Airfare was a little higher than maybe another weekend would be, but also I didn’t have to take a day off work. Like other posters said, nothing is going to be perfect for everyone, especially when most people have to travel for it. I think having it in a major city is a good idea as it helps with travel, and gives people lots of options for things to do so they can enjoy themselves on the holiday weekend.
Post # 14
I hate weddings over long weekends. Between travelling, traffic and extra expensive everything, it’s all too much. I would only attend if I was local.
Personally I would look at moving it. But I would check with your VIPs before booking anything.
Post # 15
It really depends on where this wedding is…
I would probably use your wedding as a long weekend vacation…if it’s a location that I wanted to visit anyway. My husband and I went to a Sunday LD wedding 2 years ago and turned it into a mini-vacation and had a blast! I’d be more hesitant to go, however, if I had absolutely no interest in visiting that area.