Post # 1
We’re not even TTC yet. But as I think about it, I can’t help but feel guilty about the fact that I REALLY want a little girl. I think we’ll be one and done, so I’m afraid I’ll be devastated if we find we are having a boy (and jealous of everyone who has a girl). I feel so bad for feeling this way, and I’m sure it would be different once actually pregnant. Heck, my mom wanted a boy and she got me! So, just to make me feel better in the interim and get me over my little girl obsession, please tell me why having a boy is the best!
Post # 3
Having a boy, you’re less likely to have to go prom dress shopping or teach him how to walk in high heels? No periods or boobies? You won’t have to french braid his hair?
Haha, I don’t know. We would prefer a boy I think, but honestly if we find out we’re having a girl I’ll still be over the moon with joy that we are being blessed with a baby at all.
Post # 4
Only one penis to worry about!
Post # 5
I mentioned this once to a friend who was disappointed when she found out she was having a boy. Think about how many mothers seem to think no woman is good enough for their son. Trust, mothers LOVE their sons. Fiercely.
On a shallow note, little boys’ clothes have gotten so much cuter than they used to be. Also the cutest baby/toddler (BY FAR) I know is a little boy.
And when I think of what it’s like to be a girl starting at about 8 (the backstabbing! the cliques! the gossip!) and going all the way through the teen years (moodiness! body image! sex/birth control! the backstabbing! the cliques! the gossip!)…I think, when/if the day comes, give me a boy!!!
Post # 7
- If you have a boy first, and then a girl, he will be her big brother and can look after her 🙂
- Fun building lego pirate ships! 🙂
- Less accessories to buy when they are older?: hair clips, make-up etc
Seriously though don’t worry, I always thought I wanted a girl too, but now I’m preg I really don’t mind either way as long as the baby is healthy and I often think of the baby as a he – not sure why! Which I never did before and when TTC. It just takes over that you want a healthy LO.
Ps, sorry if my replies are a bit stereotypical as to gender – I realise not all girls wear make-up etc!
Post # 8
A boy will always love his mama! I used to want girls and then realized all the drama I put my mother through… Future Sister-In-Law says the same.
Post # 9
I struggle with this too. Darling Husband comes from a family of ALL boys. Three brothers, three nephews. No girls. I often joke that I am doomed but it’s something I do think about and worry about. Honestly, I’m fairly girly but I’m also fiercly feminist and I’m afraid I won’t be able to pass that along to my daughters, if I end up with only boys. I so want to raise strong, opinionated daughters who are powerful and bright and independent. I hate the stereotypes that you won’t have to worry so much about boys or that with girls you’ll have to keep the locked up and they can’t date until they’re 30, etc. etc. It implies that boys have no control over themselves and that girls are victims. And that boys can take care of themselves while girls need extra protection. Shouldn’t we love both genders equally, and worry about them equally? Bah. Boys need love and worry too.
My sister pointed out to me though, that if I have boys I can still raise them to be feminists. I can teach them about equality and raise them to believe that women are their equals in every way and should be respected for the person they are. Not judged based on their reproductive organs. And that neither sex is entitled to anything based on their gender. I belive very, very firmly that the discourse on rape needs to be changed from a message of “ladies, don’t get raped” to a firm message of “men! don’t rape!” What better way to affect that change than raising my own, respectful young men who know how to treat women properly?
Post # 10
Boys don’t turn into bratty little girls…Girls are way too much to handle for me.
Post # 11
@artichokey: I absolutely agree. Even though I want a little girl very, very much, I’m good with a boy, because honestly, we need more good men in the world!
And there is nothing cuter than a little boy in vintage inspired clothing! Awww!
Post # 12
@rubyred605: Yes! Personally, I have a gender neutral nursery planned for our future kids and the sons I end up with will wear the cutest damn boy clothes ever. No camo onesies, no ACDC sleepers, no entire wardrobe made up of entirely primary colors (mostly blue) with a few hints of mustard brown in there. My kids are going to be stylish no matter their gender. Done and done.
Post # 13
I was only ever blessed to have one child. And he’s a boy. There’s something so very special about the mother/son bond, it’s hard to explain but special and unique. He’s 20 now and we’re still very close. 🙂
I always wanted a girl but when my baby boy was born I wouldn’t have traded him for all the girls in the world. He’s my sunshine.
Post # 14
All my doctors and friends say that boys are easier to raise than girls are!
Post # 15
I wanted a girl so I can dress her up and have girl time together… but I never did. So I got my son, a gift. I thanked myself and my son’s father I had a boy because poop in a diaper cleanup was easier (no circumcision) and I never had to deal with a toddler drama queen. I never had to worry about clothes, boy’s clothes were cheaper and had few selections, plus he didn’t care too much about style! I didn’t have to worry about hair accessories, jewelry, nailpolish, purses, etc… I find a boy is financially cheaper to raise! Also emotionally… I didn’t have to worry about pregnancy in teen years, rape, running away and becoming involved in the street scene (ie prostitute) broken hearts etc…worrying about where she is at 1:00 in the morning?? I had a good kid. He stayed home and told me where he was going and never slept over at anyone house and never got into trouble.
But if you want to talk about ME? I gave my parents GRIEF! My brother was a concern too, but I emotionally drained them more!
Post # 16
@EastMeetsBarn: Because he will look like your DH!!! This is why I’d love a boy!!!