Post # 1
Long story short, I knew that my boyfriend had picked up the ring from his parents when he went to visit them this past weekend. I took a sneaky peek in his bedside drawer and sure enough, the little bag from the jewelry shop was right there. I’ve already seen and held the piece that the ring is made out of (it’s a family heirloom), and all that was done to the old piece was a simple band was added to make it a ring. Even though I know pretty much exactly what it looks like, I’m so tempted to just open it up and try it on!
I know I should wait until he proposes so as not to ruin the surprise (not that it’s a huge surprise since we designed the ring together) and I want to let him have the moment of showing it to me for the first time. However, it’s just so damn tempting when I’m home alone and I need some strength.
Does anyone have any stories/advice that will help me get through the next few weeks or so?
Post # 2
he deserves to be there when you see it! Dont be selfish. There, was that a good guilt trip? Give it to yourself daily!
Post # 3
because you will regret it.
You know you will.
Post # 4
Distract yourself. Out of sight, out of mind. The moment will make you glad you had patience.
As for stories there is a post here where a lady tried the ring on, but then was witness to an accident while wearing it. The BF caught her and it was hell to pay, See if I can find it…. found!
He caught me wearing the ring (I peeked and found it, he hasn't proposed yet)
Post # 5
I agree with the other girls – he deserves to see your face when you see it and try it on for the first time….you will TOTALLY regret it if you peek!! I knew my ring was in the safe for a few days before we got engaged…it was KILLING me, but I am so glad I didn’t peek! You have your whole life to look at the ring on your finger! 🙂
Post # 6
Because you should let him have his moment, too. You’re not the only one getting engaged.
Post # 7
When he proposes, your reaction won’t be as authentic, because part of the surprise is seeing the ring for the first time. You want the proposal to be authentic and beautiful and memorable.
Also, he’s probably fretting and planning and putting tons of time into the ring and proposal. This is a really big deal for him – don’t wreck it by peeking.
Post # 8
I know where my ring is, it’s killing me not to look. I’m very type A. I want to know what it looks like. But I want that first time I see it, be the moment he asks me. I want him to know that is the first time I’ve seen it since we picked it out. That moment means a lot to me and I know it will to him.
Post # 9
Check out the comments on this post from earlier today: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/tried-on-the-ring/
Even though I know the ring my boyfriend will buy me, I would not want to see the actual ring until he proposes. I am praying I never know it is in the house, but obviously sometimes you can’t avoid knowing if you stumble upon it accidently. I wouldn’t open the box though!
Post # 10
I just commented on that thread hoping for an update! The story is pretty funny to read a year later…hope it had a happy ending! lol
Post # 11
Its so tempting! But you should definitely wait. I know my boyfriend purchased my ring over the weekend, and I know I can get details out of him if I tried (the boy can’t lie to me 😉 but I do want it to be special. Stay strong!
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull
I’ll be honest here, I got a case of the crazies. I looked for my ring.
I had no reason to think he had one, so I’m not sure why I did it but I snooped.
I found nothing, so I let it go.
Fiance proposed just days later and seeing that ring for the first time, and getting to wear it as a legit WOMAN WHO IS OFFICIALLY GETTING MARRIED YAY!! was an amazing feeling. I didn’t stop looking at it all night.
He’d hidden the ring where he knew I’d never look. He knew I’d snoop – he was convinced I knew that a proposal was coming – so he hid it well.
Your Fiance has put a lot of effort into this ring for you – the least you can do is make the effort not to look for it.
If it bugs you so much, talk to Fiance and tell him that you know where it’s hidden and it’s driving you mad, so could he please relocate it or ask you already 😛
Post # 13
Thanks everyone! Peer pressure is good sometimes
Post # 14
this might help.
My DH and I picked out a ring together. He even sent me a video when he was at home as it arrived and I was at work in a rather important 2 day governmental meeting! So I had to not squeal in the corridor on the break when it popped on my phone. Even with this, even seeing a video of the finished ring, it was still totally amazing when he showed it to me for the first time on a bended knee and proposed the next time we saw each other (that evening). That’s how special that moment is. Keep the ‘in the flesh’ moment just for you two.