(Closed) Tell me why I shouldn't peek at my engagement ring!

posted 5 years ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

he deserves to be there when you see it! Dont be selfish. There, was that a good guilt trip? Give it to yourself daily!

Post # 3
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Busy bee

because you will regret it.

You know you will. 

 

Post # 5
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Bumble bee

I agree with the other girls – he deserves to see your face when you see it and try it on for the first time….you will TOTALLY regret it if you peek!! I knew my ring was in the safe for a few days before we got engaged…it was KILLING me, but I am so glad I didn’t peek! You have your whole life to look at the ring on your finger! 🙂

Post # 6
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Newbee

Because you should let him have his moment, too.  You’re not the only one getting engaged. 

Post # 7
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Busy bee

When he proposes, your reaction won’t be as authentic, because part of the surprise is seeing the ring for the first time. You want the proposal to be authentic and beautiful and memorable. 

Also, he’s probably fretting and planning and putting tons of time into the ring and proposal. This is a really big deal for him – don’t wreck it by peeking. 

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I know where my ring is, it’s killing me not to look. I’m very type A. I want to know what it looks like. But I want that first time I see it, be the moment he asks me. I want him to know that is the first time I’ve seen it since we picked it out. That moment means a lot to me and  I know it will to him. 

 

Post # 9
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2019

Check out the comments on this post from earlier today: http://boards.weddingbee.com/topic/tried-on-the-ring/ 

Even though I know the ring my boyfriend will buy me, I would not want to see the actual ring until he proposes. I am praying I never know it is in the house, but obviously sometimes you can’t avoid knowing if you stumble upon it accidently. I wouldn’t open the box though!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee

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theatrejulia :  

I just commented on that thread hoping for an update! The story is pretty funny to read a year later…hope it had a happy ending! lol

Post # 11
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Newbee

Its so tempting! But you should definitely wait. I know my boyfriend purchased my ring over the weekend, and I know I can get details out of him if I tried (the boy can’t lie to me 😉 but I do want it to be special. Stay strong! 

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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therealsashafierce :  I’ll be honest here, I got a case of the crazies. I looked for my ring.

I had no reason to think he had one, so I’m not sure why I did it but I snooped.

I found nothing, so I let it go.

Fiance proposed just days later and seeing that ring for the first time, and getting to wear it as a legit WOMAN WHO IS OFFICIALLY GETTING MARRIED YAY!! was an amazing feeling. I didn’t stop looking at it all night.

He’d hidden the ring where he knew I’d never look. He knew I’d snoop – he was convinced I knew that a proposal was coming – so he hid it well.

Your Fiance has put a lot of effort into this ring for you – the least you can do is make the effort not to look for it.

If it bugs you so much, talk to Fiance and tell him that you know where it’s hidden and it’s driving you mad, so could he please relocate it or ask you already 😛 

xxx

Post # 14
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Bee Keeper

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therealsashafierce :  this might help. 

My DH and I picked out a ring together. He even sent me a video when he was at home as it arrived and I was at work in a rather important 2 day governmental meeting!  So I had to not squeal in the corridor on the break when it popped on my phone. Even with this, even seeing a video of the finished ring, it was still totally amazing when he showed it to me for the first time on a bended knee and proposed the next time we saw each other (that evening). That’s how special that moment is. Keep the ‘in the flesh’ moment just for you two. 

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