Post # 1
My husband and I agreed last week that we will start TTC in October.
We have spoken a lot over the last year about how we feel about it, when to start, and what we need to achieve before then.
We spoke during the week about it again and he wasn’t 100% sure initially, and felt he was waiting for some kind of an epiphany that he said was not completely logical. He asked me more about why I wanted to start a family – why now, what I picture our life being like, concerns, pros and cons…. I was very open about my hopes and fears, my trauma from my own childhood and how that might positively and negatively impact me as a parent. And shared dreams I have and how I dream of little moments in the future.
At the end of this he said “no matter what tiny part of me might never be confident I’m going to be 100% ready, you sound 100% ready and that really matters and changes everything. Let’s do it.”
We have a weekend break soon, family visiting in August and a vacation in September, so we are going to relax, enjoy life, and start trying after September.
We have agreed we will not tell anyone we are trying, and I need to just share my excitement!
How did your TTC conversation go? Were you both ready at the same time? Who initiated the conversations? Tell me everything!
Post # 2
It was something along the lines of: I’m ‘old’ because you dragged out getting married for years. We are starting when we’ve been married one year.
He didn’t have a lot of choice barring withholding, lol. I don’t think either of us was 100% ready. I’m not sure anyone ever really is. But time was a’wastin’. I did get checked out at the gyno and drank green smoothies in prep but that’s about it.
Post # 3
First Child: I was more interested in TTC than him, but it went like this-
Me: “How do you feel about not using condoms anymore starting on our wedding night?”
2nd Child: He started asking me when I wanted to try for a second one when our daughter was around a year. I told him I wasn’t ready yet, even though we had said we would want two close together. I said I wanted to wait until after our next big vacation and our daughter was 2 and a half. So that’s what we did.
Post # 4
Haha we are both 30 so age wasn’t a huge factor for us, though I have definitely felt that ‘tick tick’ over the last year! I don’t think anyone can be 100% ready, he said he was just too in his own head and waiting for a sign 🤷🏼♀️
Pre conception health checks aren’t a common thing in Europe, so my plan is to just eat well, take folic acid, and enjoy all the things I won’t be able to soon.
Post # 5
We have decided to start trying in Sept! We’ve known we wanted children for a long time (married 5 years, together for 11) but are both freelancers and needed to feel really confident in our career paths and finances before we felt ready. I also had to go through a very difficult medication taper of a med that is very unsafe for pregnancy. That journey is finally complete as of last month and I looked at my Darling Husband and said “I’m so so ready to have a baby with you” and he hugged me and said “me too!” We’re both out of town at different times through the summer, like directly on top of my fertile window, so we decided Sept is the go month!
Post # 6
pearlrose : I wish our first would have been as easy a discussion! I was definitely the one bringing the subject up and trying to help him understand his thoughts and feelings. I guess we are in a better place now, financially and mentally, so it’s probably a good thing it has taken us so long.
Post # 7
Jazzylove : How exciting!!! I wish you both a happy and healthy journey 😊❤
Post # 8
This was in 2018:
Me: I’m ovulating, we should just try once and see what happens (jokingly, because I knew he wasn’t ready)
Him: Well, I’ve been thinking that I’m not ready right now, but I think that towards the end of this year I’ll be ready to go. How does October sound to start trying?
Me: * happy panic *
I really didn’t see it coming! I thought he’d need a couple more years to mentally prepare. We had already talked about kids in the future and were on the same page about wanting them, so at that point I was just kind of waiting for him to be ready for it!