Post # 1
I’ve been a longg time lurker and have just decided to make an account because I do not know what to do right now I feel so helpless and I need advice. Something has recently come up that has left me sick to my stomach and has brought back memories of a childhood issue. I absolutely can’t tell any of my friends, family, and most heart wrenching is I feel I can’t tell my fiance. This is because it involves a family member. I do want to go to therapy as I clearly don’t feel comfortable talking about it with anyone I know. Honestly, I don’t know if I’ll ever feel comfortable telling my fiance (or anyone) about this issue.
My question is, do I need to tell my fiance I’m going to go to a therapy session(s)? I usually tell him everythinggg so it feels so hard to not tell him. I’m scared that if I tell him I want to go to therapy, that he will ask why I want to go. Is it not fair to him to keep going to therapy a secret? Do I have to tell him of this horrible past issue? It has never affected our relationship. If you have any insight, I’d appreciate it. I feel so alone and helpless. Thanks for listening.
Post # 2
I would tell a Fiance or husband that I’m attending therapy. I wouldn’t necessarily tell a Boyfriend or Best Friend. fwiw
Here’s hoping that you are able to talk things out well with your therapist, and regain some confidence despite any challenge you’ve had to overcome.
Post # 3
I’d tell him it has to do with a family issue And that youll talk to him about it down the road. Right now he doesn’t have to know. I think as you make progress with therapy youll feel better telling him. Good for you for getting help.
Post # 4
To me, honesty is a major part of a relationship. If you can’t confide in your Fiance then what else are you hiding or going to hide from him. I was in an abusive relationship prior to my Darling Husband. I made the choice to come clean and tell him everything, things I couldn’t tell my parents or friends. He made the choice to stay and help me through things. It made us stronger as a couple.
I think your Fiance would like to know what is going on. This could really affect your relationship and not in a good way by keeping it from him. Maybe you could see the therapist together.
Good Luck. Hugs!