Post # 1
I’ve been a longg time lurker and have just decided to make an account because I do not know what to do right now I feel so helpless and I need advice. Something has recently come up that has left me sick to my stomach and has brought back memories of a childhood issue. I absolutely can’t tell any of my friends, family, and most heart wrenching is I feel I can’t tell my fiance. This is because it involves a family member. I do want to go to therapy as I clearly don’t feel comfortable talking about it with anyone I know. Honestly, I don’t know if I’ll ever feel comfortable telling my fiance (or anyone) about this issue.
My question is, do I need to tell my fiance I’m going to go to a therapy session(s)? I usually tell him everythinggg so it feels so hard to not tell him. I’m scared that if I tell him I want to go to therapy, that he will ask why I want to go. Is it not fair to him to keep going to therapy a secret? Do I have to tell him of this horrible past issue? It has never affected our relationship. If you have any insight, I’d appreciate it. I feel so alone and helpless. Thanks for listening.
Post # 2
I would tell a Fiance or husband that I’m attending therapy. I wouldn’t necessarily tell a BF. fwiw
Here’s hoping that you are able to talk things out well with your therapist, and regain some confidence despite any challenge you’ve had to overcome.
Post # 3
I’d tell him it has to do with a family issue And that youll talk to him about it down the road. Right now he doesn’t have to know. I think as you make progress with therapy youll feel better telling him. Good for you for getting help.
Post # 4
To me, honesty is a major part of a relationship. If you can’t confide in your Fiance then what else are you hiding or going to hide from him. I was in an abusive relationship prior to my DH. I made the choice to come clean and tell him everything, things I couldn’t tell my parents or friends. He made the choice to stay and help me through things. It made us stronger as a couple.
I think your Fiance would like to know what is going on. This could really affect your relationship and not in a good way by keeping it from him. Maybe you could see the therapist together.
Good Luck. Hugs!