Post # 1
I’m not planning to change my last name because of my career and publicatons.
We both come from traditional families and have friends that will most likely assume I am changing my last name, so I want to try to get the word out there in case anyone is writing a check to both of us or even thinking of a monogrammed gift (a very real possibility knowing some of the family).
Do you think that the wedding website would be an acceptable place to put a note? How would you suggest wording it?
Post # 3
I’d try to spread it through word of mouth. I don’t see how it would flow right on a wedding website. Even if someone does write you a check, I don’t think it’s a huge issue to deposit. His name will still be on it. Plus, I always write checks to “John and Susan Smith” after the wedding when the bride has yet to legally change her name, and there has never once been a problem or hold-up. They all deposit right away, even with the bride endorsing the check with her maiden name.
The monogram issue…I don’t know about, but I’d still stick with word of mouth.
Post # 4
@abbie017: All of this. My Grandpa once sent me a check with my mom’s maiden name, and the bank let me cash it at the teller. Last names aren’t a huge deal for some reason.
Post # 5
@butterbeans: Depositing checks with your husband’s last name isn’t an issue. Just take the marriage license if you’re worried, but you probably won’t need it. If you want to at some place on the website put “Congratulate the future Mr. His lastname and Mrs. Your lastname!!” It might fit. Like on the guestbook page or something. But if you’re just worried about checks, I wouldn’t. It’s not going to be a problem.
Post # 6
I don’t disagree with the idea of spreading this by word of mouth versus specifically saying it, but I do know that a few of my friends HAVE had trouble cashing checks with a different last name. Check with your bank before you assume it won’t be an issue. That would be a pretty nasty surprise.