(Closed) Tell us about your rehearsal dinner!

posted 10 years ago in Parties
Post # 4
423 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

My FI’s parents are paying.  We’re having it after the rehearsal at an Italian restaurant.  We worked with the manager to create a custom party menu, so we’ll have something like 2 appetiezers, 4 entrees, and 3 desserts to pick from.  They are big drinkers, so they’re paying for an open bar tab.  (This worries me a little for some of the groomsmen, but I’m sure it’ll work out!)  I believe it worked out to like $34/plate.

I have invitation postcards I had made up by Vistaprint (great price!) and we’ll include everyone who is in the wedding so:

  • My parents
  • his parents
  • both our grandmothers (GF’s deceased)
  • all the wedding party (14 including bride and groom)
  • the Flower Girl and RB who are children of bridal party members
  • the RB’s mom who is not in the wedding party
  • FI’s sisters who are doing readings during the ceremony
  • FI’s aunt who basically attends all immediate family functions
  • my two uncles and one aunt from out of town
  • the pianist
  • the pastor and his wife

It works out to be about 30-32 people I think.  Yeah, little expensive, but his parents are more well-off than mine and mine are chipping in much more for the wedding itself.  I’ll send out the post cards about 3 weeks before the wedding.


For your situation, I think if you 1) ask everyone to dress nice-ish and 2) throw up some decor (bunting maybe? a few nice candles place all around?) that a home rehearsal dinner would be fine.  Plus being in a less formal environment would help everyone be albe to relax a little more before the big day.  Don’t sweat it!

Post # 5
4560 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We had it at an restaurant private room for 16 people–Wedding party, immediate family and out of town guests. No invitations. I just sent emails to out of town guest to see when they were arriving, let them know when the dinner was and asked if they would be able to make it.

I think having it at home would be too much work. If you are worried about the mixed drinks, just let the staff know you are only paying for wine or beer. (when they come arround, just ask–wine or beer?) If someone wants a mixed drink, have the server point them to the bar (they can walk over there and get (and pay for) the drink themselves)

Edit– yes we did have speeches but only the two fathers.

Post # 6
3674 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2010

We had a very casual rehearsal brunch at my in law’s house. We were deciding between only inviting wedding party and having something small and fancier, or having all Out of Town guests and doing something more casual, and we picked the big and casual. My Mother-In-Law sent out the invites. She served bagels and sandwiches. We didn’t have any speeches, but we did take our wedding party and family into a seperate room while everyone else was mingling so we could present them with gifts. It was really nice, and very us.


Post # 7
645 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

Whoof. The Rehearsal Dinner was kind of a pain for us but my mom really shouldered most of it, and now I’m looking forward to it (and crossing my fingers that we get to the restaurant on time!!).

So originally she wanted all of her (very large) family along with the Bridal Party and grandparents to come. We got a private room at a lovely restaurant that my Fiance has always wanted to have the Rehearsal Dinner at–it’s along the waterfront in DC. Although I should say it WAS along the waterfront in DC because 2 weeks ago someone forgot to close the storm gates to that area and everything completely flooded! All the restaurants are closed for the summer b/c of the damage. It sucked for us (was 1000x worse for the folks who work down there I’m sure 🙁 ) but the restaurant people graciously let us switch our plans to their sister restaurant. Which in a way ended up being very nice–we got to scale down the event to just 2 tables of family and Bridal Party only. We picked out a couple entrees and appetizers for a small custom menu and otherwise it will be regular table service. Fiance and I will thank everyone but otherwise no speeches. Chocolate cake and carrot cake for dessert! yum!

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