- 7 years ago
You bees are going to flip out over this story… But, I want to share it to let others know it is OK to be non-traditional, and sometimes it is OK for the women to take control.
So, the Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have been chatting about marriage, and we both decided that yes, we would most likely want to marry each other. We talked about how we would see our wedding, etc. We have been living together for a few years now (both in our mid to late 20’s).
I took it upon myself to pick out a ring, and purchase it. This is the year 2012, and I just didn’t see why I had to wait and let the man buy the ring. If I did, I am sure I wouldn’t get married for another 5 years, haha! Or, we would probably gert engaged without a ring. He just can’t shop for anything. He can’t even shop for himself most of the time.
I don’t doubt his ability to commit to me. This just seemed right for our relationship. Plus, I also see this as a test for our relationship. In the future, I see myself being better with finances, and perhaps even making more money than my man.
I am not going to propose or anything, but I want to make the ring available to him so that he could propose whenever he liked, but have the ring ready if he wanted to do so. I am not pressuring him, because that would be counterproductive. He can wait as long as he likes. I just don’t want the ability to buy a ring to stand in the way.
Also, he already has made very large purchases for me in the past, so I know he is willing to sacrifice a large portion of his money for me to symbolize his love and committment already.
Anyhow, so now comes the time when I have to tell him that I bought the ring. Will see what happens! But, he is non-traditional too, so I really don’t think he will care.