(Closed) telling family before week 12?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 3
1470 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@mickle707:  I told family before week 12, close friends before 20 weeks, and whoever after 20 weeks. If something had happened, I wanted my family to know. But we made sure to let them know that we didn’t want others to know. They all kept it quiet.

Post # 4
8482 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2014

Not pregnant, but agh! I’m so not looking forward to that. I’ll want to tell everyone as soon as I find out, and then get depressed when I cant. =(

Post # 5
9820 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yeah we told our parents and siblings and a few of my best friends (like my MOHs lol) pretty much right away.  If you’re close with them, I don’t see any problems.  I waited until about 16 weeks to tell my other friends and we told the rest of our family (not close with) and everyone else around 18 weeks.

Post # 6
5474 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

We told immediate family pretty early, assuming that if something were to go wrong those would be the people I would have around me to support me anyway.

We didn’t tell anyone we wouldn’t want to “un” tell.

Post # 7
12246 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

You’ve held out WAY longer than me…

I told my sister at 4w3d, my Mom guessed at 4w4d. We told my Dad/much younger siblings at 7w3d, DH’s ENTIRE family (extended, too) at 8w3d, my grandparents/aunts/uncles/very close friends at 9w3d, and made an announcement on FB after my first u/s at 13w5d!

Post # 8
841 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

@mickle707:  I’m not pregnant, and never have been, but I think it would be so hard not to tell our parents/siblings. FI’s sister told us she was pregnant at like 4 weeks and just asked that we don’t tell anyone.

Post # 9
4134 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We told our parents the day after my positive test. I told my BFF the day after that. We’ve told a handful of other friends as well (6-7). We haven’t told DH’s brothers yet because my one SIL is a blabber mouth and overdramatic – if something bad happens (I MC in August), she is the one person I WOULD NOT want to know.


I don’t think telling early is a bad thing. If something bad happens, you’d want support from these people.

Post # 10
176 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

Tell them and share your joy! 

Post # 12
3112 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@mickle707:  I told my friends immediately at 4w. I wanted to tell my family in person so that was around 8w. I would say go for it!

Post # 13
5373 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

I think it’s totally fine to tell your family around Christmas, becuase 1) I think it would be a really great Christmas surprise 2) 11 weeks is really close to 12 weeks and I don’t think it’s that early to announce it.

I’m not TTC or pregnant yet, but when I am I think I’ll tell my parents and brother right away, because I would want their support if I have a MC. I would wait to tell everyone else though until about 12 weeks (especially my FI’s family since I know they’ll be really stressful aha).

Post # 14
3081 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We’re debating telling my in-laws on Christmas at 5 weeks 5 days! We won’t even have had our first Dr. appointment by then ugh. I’ve already told my sisters. We’re making the decision based on who we would want supporting us if the worst were to happen. I say you’re fine to tell them on Christmas – what a great Christmas present 🙂

Post # 15
308 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

We actually plan to tell our parents and siblings (I have one brother and dh has one sister) on Xmas day. I will only be exactly 5 weeks. As @DaneLady said, if anything were to go wrong at least we will have that support instead of going through it on our own.

Post # 16
4998 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Oh my gosh I would definitely tell them!! I would probably tell them shortly after finding out, but make sure they don’t tell anyone else Smile

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