(Closed) telling family before week 12?

posted 6 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 17
1811 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

We are telling family on Christmas Eve which will be 5 weeks 2 days!  We figure that if anything were to happen we would rely on them for support, so we might as well share our joy with them too!

Post # 18
662 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

We told our families right away, and friends found out as we saw them, so many of them before 12 weeks.  The only thing I waited on was a FB announcement, and I did that at 14 weeks.

Post # 19
7643 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

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@mickle707:  We told parents and siblings before week 12, and I told my BFF at week 11, but that was it. I didn’t want to tell anyone else and risk it getting out to everyone and then having something go wrong and have to explain everything or be bothered.

I wouldn’t risk losing control over the situation. Yeah, it’s Christmas. It’s a wodnerful time to share such joyous news, but it would also be very sad if, God forbid, your New Year started with having to tell people something happened. I like to play it safe.

Post # 20
1348 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I actually feel a lot of anxiety about telling people I’m not really that close with. 

I told my mom and siblings around 5 weeks. I just can’t lie. So I’d have to avoid them and I didn’t want to do that. 

I also told my grandma who I am very close with. Which was a big mistake because she’s already told my aunts and uncles and cousins which I specifically asked her not to do. -_- 

DH told his mom and siblings. That’s all that knows on his side. We will be with his family over Christmas and I’ll be 12 weeks… I still haven’t decided if I want to tell the rest of his family at the christmas eve party… 

I’m not looking forward to it…but I’m not sure why. 

Post # 21
445 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I told my brother.

SO was away when I found out and I have medical issues and so really needed to tell someone.

Post # 22
309 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I will be 12 weeks at Christmas and we told my mom and step-dad and DH’s parents right away.  Just had our first ultrasound last week and won’t have another till i think 16 weeks, so I am going to tell the rest of my family at Christmas! Let us know what you decide 🙂


Post # 23
11736 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@mickle707: We told DH’s parents at 8 weeks after our first u/s since we were going on vacation with them and didn’t want them to figure it out for themselves since I was pretty sick.  We told my parents at 11 weeks before we had our NT scan.  I asked everyone to keep quite about it until at least after our NT scan at 12 weeks. SOme were better at doing this then others!

The way we saw it is if something happened, we’d want their support anyways.  We didn’t announce it to most others until we found out the sex at 20 weeks.

Post # 24
2775 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2010

We told immediate family and a couple of close friends after I had a dating ultrasound and saw the heartbeat at 6w4d.  The doctor told me the chance of miscarriage drops to <5% after you see a normal heartbeat, so it felt safe enough to start telling our inner circle.

Post # 25
760 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

We told family at Thanksgiving. I’ll be 11 weeks on Christmas. I pretty much had to tell family because my mother always buys me clothing so I needed to stop her immediately from going overboard ;-p

Post # 26
466 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

We told our parents around 8 weeks (a week after we found out) and told them they could pass on the news to close family. We told friends between 10-12 weeks and announced on FB at 12 weeks.

Post # 27
409 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I’m not pregnant but I dont plan to tell anyone before 12 weeks! Not even my Mum and we’re pretty close! The Mother-In-Law is going to be a NIGHTMARE so really I’d like to tell her after I’d had the baby haha. 

Post # 28
879 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2013

I told my best friend right after my husband, then a couple of other very close friends a week later. I told my boss pretty early on and then I kept quiet until this week when I told my colleagues (8w4d) because the next time I would be seeing them I would be 15 weeks. We are telling my in laws on Xmas eve and I’m not sure when we will tell my parents as things aren’t great there. For me I’d want people to help support me through if (God forbid) anything did happen.

Post # 29
1664 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

we told our parents the day after finding out at 4.5 weeks. We told our siblings at 6 weeks. We then told our grandparents and close aunts and uncles at 10 weeks.
The rest of the world found out at 12 weeks 🙂 I think it’s fine… we told the people we would want support from if anything were to ever happen.

Post # 30
5658 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

Totally a personal choice based on comfort level. There’s no RULE that says what you should do. We told parents at 5 weeks and siblings. After hearing the HB at week 8 we told more close friends and more family, at this point we are 13 weeks and almost everyone that we are close to knows, and most of them knew before week 12.

Post # 31
11165 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

@mickle707:  I say go for it!

I will be 8 weeks and 1 day on Christmas and we are planning to tell our immediate family. We will tell friends and more distant family in eary February once I am past the 12 week mark.

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