(Closed) telling guests not to wear wedding colors

posted 9 years ago in Themes
Post # 32
1366 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

This is your wedding and your are entitled to have it as you wish. Since you are asking, I don’t think it’s appropriate to ask or tell guests what to wear to your wedding. While I do think you can say “black tie”, “white tie”, formal, or informal, I think specifying colors is a bit extreme. What if some people only have similar color attire to what your wedding colors are? Should they go out and buy a new outfit just for your wedding if they want to attend? I don’t think people are going to get bridesmaids and guests mixed up and if there is any confusion about it, why can’t they just ask?

Post # 33
705 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@greenidlady:  I agree!  In the grand scheme of things, does it really even matter?


When you get to a point of wanting to dictate exactly what your guests are wearing, might be a time to take a lil break from wedding planning. 

Post # 34
471 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@peachacid:  I think *I* want to marry you.

What should I wear?

Post # 35
1752 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012



hear something new every day on this site man…



But what if someone shows up in this:

Post # 36
717 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I had one friend tell her guests, via word of mouth, not to wear anything red or white, because those were her colors. People were very put out by this and I don’t think one can tell their guests what colors not to wear.

There’s really no need to make your wedding colors all inclusive to the wedding party. If a guest or dozen wears some of your color, or an entire outfit of it, so what? It really won’t matter in the end. If one’s wedding color was blue, and all I had were articles of clothing with blue in it, I’d be pretty ticked that I’d have to go find something without blue in it.

If people ask what your colors are so they won’t wear it, then tell them. But, don’t impose that rule on everyone. I’ve had people ask what my colors are so they won’t clash. It’s nice of them to ask and plan, but not at all required.

Post # 37
6458 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@mandypop:  Those wearing the black wolf shirts would not be given a spear with which to forage their dinner.  Nuff said.

Post # 38
57 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Ok Peachaid, I am from Wisc, and pretty sure EVERY Fleet and Farm has these t-shirts if you need me to send you some!

But seriously…. what about someone who WANTS to dress like the bridesmaids?

My Fiance adult daughter asked us the other day if our color was purple, and I said NO it is eggplant (<—don’t go there, it is NOT Barney purple!!) and she said, “Oh good, purple looks awful with my red hair, I saw a eggplant dress I am going to wear.” Then also asked if she could crash where the Bridesmaid or Best Man and I are getting our hair done. Obviously she wanted to be part of the wedding party, things are pretty set, wedding 6 weeks out, so I asked if she would like to sing a song at the ceremony, and she is delighted. I quicked called the florist to add another wrist corsage for her too.

I don’t care is she wears eggplant or not! By The Way i haven’t told her the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses actually are charcoal, as the BM’s also did not like eggplant dresses.

Post # 39
412 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

Usually your wedding website or your invitations hinted on your color choice so chances are people will try to avoid the color if possible. 

But if they do wear your wedding color I don’t see a big problem so don’t worry about it!  Did you buy the bridesmaid dress at DB or bridal store?  If that’s the case, chances with the guest wearing same dress will be minimal. 

Post # 40
2336 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

This may not be the case for you, but I’ll add that I choose my colors because I liked them (shades of blue).  So you know what, I don’t mind if guests wear them, the more blue, the merrier! 

Post # 41
881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

We had several guests inadvertently “match” our wedding and it was fun. Like ka01 said, we liked those colors and were happy to see more of them. There were no problems distinguishing them from the bridal party. 

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