- 5 years ago
- Wedding: October 2013
Hi so i no this sounds horrible so a tiny bit of background.
My sister and i were close wen we were young until she and i had and argument and then unfortunatley things didnt really go back to normal before she moved over the other side of the world. 5 years on and she has meet my other half about 4 times for about 2 hrs each time. her other half is weird and dont really think much of him but she is happy so hey ho.
I got engaged and asked her to be bridesmaid. my only one at the time till i new if my best friend could come to the wedding.
all was ok for 9 months. on x mas day my sister lost it at something ridiculous and messeged me everything she hates about my other half and y she doesnt like us together and doesnt think we should get married. so then i didnt talk to her for a month. then the night before we spoke i mentiond if she doesnt think that she can support me through the week of r wedding maybe she shouldnt be bridesmaid. she went on to say she wants to and wants to see me get ready and loads more mean stuff abaout my other half about how she never thought he was good from the second she met him.
then we spoke for first time and she never apologised just said o well no looking back lets move on. and i was annyed but thought ok well our relationship has been roky and we agreed to talk more often and make an effort to get our relationship back on track.
its bean another 2 months and i cant get past what she said and the hurtful things. i would never have the disrespect to say those things to her and about her other half. i dont feel i know him a huuuges amount but also i dont really think its much of my business and that i can make a judgement from sooo far away.
I guess i wished A : she never said anything and thought as i do well she is happy i will be happy for her.
or B even if she did say something is wasnt over a horrible text on Xmas after i had already asked her to be a bridesmaid.
to me a bridemaids shouldnt act like this. Im so hurt and up set i just want people around me that are happy and supportive like my bff and fsil. every one else is fab so i guess thats why it upsets me more.
Now i feel like because my family dont know the whole story except for my mum who understands either way. I feel like i am going to be seen as the horrible one for doing this. rather than her for putting me in this situation.
I want her there specialy in ten years time wen i look back on the piccs. but i just cant bare her to do all the organinsing flowers and nails and bits i have to do when i arrive to our venue (abroad) and then get ready with me and stand with me with probably a face like a slapped bum. also i often get mean sarcy comments i dont want right before walkinmg down the isle.
PLEASE HELP! sorry for mistakes i wrote this so fast.x