Post # 1
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Bumble bee
I couldn’t sleep last night, so I was looking at the Bee on my phone. SO woke up and asked me what I was looking at. I didn’t want to tell him, so I just said “Erg, nothing. Girl stuff. Go back to sleep.” I know. Smooth.
He was curious and puzzled and asked if it was something that would involve him. I said maybe, but again did not want to give away too many details. He gave up and just went to sleep, but I felt terrible.
I want to tell him so he doesn’t think I’m doing something dastardly like talking to another guy, but there are a lot of things on here I don’t want him to know, like when I tell total strangers about our relationship. I know it’s anonymous, but I don’t think he’d understand.
I responded to a similar thread saying that if he ever did find out, I would just explain to him that me looking at other people’s wedding dresses is the same as him looking at Camaros and Corvettes on his message boards. Just because I’m dreaming about having one doesn’t mean I’m going to run out and buy one tomorrow.
Am I overthinking this? I know it’s only a message board. I just don’t want to freak him out.
Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
Hopefully you’re overthinking it, lol. But I think it’s better to tell him than to leave him wondering.
What I told my Fiance about the site is that it’s mainly about wedding related things like rings, cakes and dresses.
Which it is. 
Edit: Oops, I forgot that you’re not engaged yet. Hopefully he’ll take it ok without feeling pressured. He may even like it! Keeping my fingers crossed for ya.
Post # 4
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Bumble bee
@Sunfire: Yeah, and he’d have to physically go through my history and click each post one by one to find the ones I don’t want him to see and I doubt he would ever do that.
Post # 5
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Buzzing Beekeeper
@OneOfTheseDaysAlice: He probably won’t even remember the exact name to find it. If he does you certainly have said many wonderful things about him and how in love you are. Might swell his head, lol.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
I told my SO about it. He doesn’t care. Yours probably won’t either.
Post # 7
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Bumble bee
@Sunfire: Awww that’s true!
Post # 8
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Bumble bee
I call it “the wedding site” haha nothing else. I feel embarassed cause im super into weddings and girly things and I know he knows this about me…but I dont like the idea of him knowing details or what I post about. He doesn;t care though
Post # 9
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Helper bee
This has happened to me. I didn’t now how to respond considering we aren’t engaged. I was on my phone and he was like, “Whatcha reading?” Me, “Umm…uhh….I’m on a message board.” And he left it that. I’m sure he has caught glimpses of it because at the end of every night, we both lay in bed, side by side and do stuff on our phones. Usually we are both reading, or looking at ifunny together for 10 or 20 minutes to wind down. But sometimes…I’m on weddingbee…and I can very well look over at his phone and see what he is doing…so I’m sure he sees me.
Post # 10
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Bumble bee
@flowersandfaerydust: This is exactly what we were doing last night. He just got an Iphone, so he was playing with it while I was playing around on my non-Iphone. haha. We got tired and went to sleep, but after lying there for a while, I couldn’t sleep, so I whipped my phone back out. I know. If I was that worried about getting caught, I wouldn’t have done it right in front of him. I think subconciously I wanted to get caught. haha
Post # 11
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Bumble bee
my Fiance knows about it…heck i get tons of ideas and found a lot of bargins from my fellow bees! he even tells me to sell my crafts on here!
i thought he wouldnt like it- but he doesnt care, it gives me someone else to chat wedding with after hes overloaded 🙂
Post # 12
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Busy bee
- Wedding: October 2014 - Savannah, GA
I told my SO about it; he doesn’t mind at all, in fact we discuss ideas and critique dresses together haha.
Post # 13
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Sugar bee
If you have joined a wedding site and hope you will one day be engaged then it shouldn’t be an issue to tell him you are on WB. If it bothered him then perhaps that would indicate he may not be on the same track/ time line as you. To quore someone who said this the other day ” You can never say the wrong thing to the right man. “
Post # 14
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Buzzing Beekeeper
@mixtapehearts: I love that quote! 🙂
Post # 15
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Helper bee
I wouldn’t mind SO knowing about wedding bee once we’re engaged but I wouldn’t want him to know about it before that.. I guess that’s just me. He already knows that I’m anxiously waiting… I’d rather him not know that I’m even more impatient than he already knows
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
I was kinda iffy on telling my guy about bee too but then i thought he should be happy I have bee because if I didn’t I would be talking to him about wedding stuff. So I told him, he wasn’t thrilled but I said either I talk to them about our wedding or I talk to you about it and he shut up pretty quick. Bee is good for both of you and you just have to show him that.
