(Closed) Telling my son about my wedding plans-any advice?

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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46417 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

No matter what his Dad has said to him, a 21 yr old man is old enough to want the best for both his parents. If he can’t deal with your moving on in your life, then it is his problem not yours. I know it will hurt if he is not supportive and I hope for your sake that he is mature enough not only to be supportive, but also to attend the wedding.

If your Ex is horrible and hateful even in his dealings with the children, your son may take the news better than you expect.

I think you may have to deal with some issues arising out of your not telling him that you have already been engaged for 3 months. I definitely wouldn’t delay any longer.

Post # 5
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2012

A friend of mine has had the same problem that her ex has told lies to her son when its HIM who cheated. She had lots of problems with him but has now decided that its best to keep a distance which seems to work better than when she tried too hard. I suggest you tell him and then give him space to think and cool down….if you are still in a bad place nearer the time maybe write him a letter explaining how you feel. Im sure he will come round in time, infact my friends son even asked her to spend xmas with him this year which was a major shock!hes only got 1 mum and sooner or later he will realise how much he needs you and be happy for you, until then give him space but maybe ask him to be part of the wedding eg groomsman so he feels involved??

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