(Closed) Telling parents you're moving out

posted 4 years ago in Family
Post # 3
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8999 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

I was hesitant to tell my mother because she is the definition of a helicopter mom. If she had her way, my umbilical cord would still be attached.

I visited my (then) boyfriend last May for 3 weeks. I was talking to mom in the terminal to fly back home (He lived in Oklahoma, I was in California) that I couldn’t be without him. I told her that when he came back home (to California where he originally lived and where I met him) to get his stuff from his parent’s house, I was going back with him.

She took it better than I thought.

Just flat out tell them. “Mom, Dad, I’m moving in with [name.]”

I assume you’re a big girl and you can speak for yourself and what goes on in your life

Post # 4
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407 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

I’m 25, I live in one side of a duplex with my boyfriend and my parents live in the other side, and own the house. Any time I remotely mention moving to our own place my mother gets upset and offended for some reason, so I stopped trying for now. Haha. 

We pay almost no rent and we’re able to save 600$/month, so living so close to them benifits us for now. 

If you think you’re ready to move out, and can cover all of the monthly expenses, it shouldn’t be an issue for them, parents over react, a lot, they just want to know you’re making smart choices. 🙂 

I’d just sit them down and show them your plan, as long as you’re prepaired there is no reason for them to be upset over anything. 

Post # 6
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8175 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@beetee123:  i moved out twice:

after college, i moved in with then BF.

then i had moved back home after that relationship ended to save money and it was closer to my new job. i stayed longer than planned.  but when i was ready to buy a house of my own, i asked my mom is she would go house shopping with me.

she was sad for me to leave but i told her i needed to go, it was time.

 

Post # 7
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856 posts
Busy bee

My parents knew I was going to move out before I told them. They’re parents! Chances are, they’ve already guessed.

Post # 9
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453 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I may not be the right person to ask. I just kind of hopped on a plane and never came back…

That wasn’t my intention. FI and I were in a long distance relationship, but I was never “allowed” to meet him until I was over 18. They finally relented (“our daughter’s been talking to this guy for four years”) and let me visit him. I was only supposed to stay for two weeks, but I was so heartbroken when it came time to leave that they let me stay for two months. A few months after that, I came back. This time, they got me a one-way ticket so I could come home when I felt like it. I never did. A few months down the road, I told them I was going to live up here and start a life with him.

If they’re those kinds of parents, who just don’t want to see their children go, they might have picked up on your hints but choose to ignore them, haha.

Post # 10
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1219 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I moved out quite young – I had just turned 17 and I moved in with my ex. I had a pretty crappy home life so I think my parents were ready to kick me out if I hadn’t said I was moving.

You’ve been with your SO a long time and you’re financially stable – chances are your parents have been anticipating this for a while! They will probably be happy for you. They might miss you and be a bit clingy at first, like calling you a lot, but they’ll get used to it.

Post # 11
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10368 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

No time like the present to start setting healthy boundaries with the parents! Good luck, I hope it goes well, and congrats on moving forward :-).

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