(Closed) Telling people ‘no’ is getting old

posted 7 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m lying.

The venue has strict guest limits due to fire guidelines. I’m “so” sorry.

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

If they fuss: I’m really sorry but we’re at max capacity already.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I have been saying something similar. The venue can only accomodate xx number of people.

But that won’t solve your problem of them date switching.  As in, _______ can’t come, so I’m inviting _________.  Maybe say something like “I only want people I invited there because they are closer to me”.

To your friend I would just lay it out there and say “If I had wanted ________ to come I would have invited him.”

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I was honest with people. We couldn’t afford plus 1’s, so we didn’t offer them. Anyone who asked, I told them “we are paying ourselves, and we can’t afford it, so no.”  People understood, at least for us. But we didn’t get more than a couple people who asked us

Post # 7
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2009

I also used a strict “if you aren’t dating one year before the wedding, you aren’t bringing anyone” and stuck to it. So, if someone said that me then I said “no, you are not bringing your flavor of the week, if you do I will beat your ass in front of her”. This was to a couple of single guy friends

Post # 8
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Sugar bee

This is of no assistance im sure but I always read these posts with a bit of envy. We are barely having anyone attend our wedding.  I would like them to. Its a dw so different but Fiance and i are not popular enough i guess and his family feels that he already had his ‘real’ wedding with the ex wife so they are not coming to ours because they think its pointless.  At least my Mum is coming.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

 

@vmec: lol I do the same thing :3

It’s true, I’ve def. gotten more assertive in the wedding-process. 

Post # 10
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@Oneeleven: omg I’m so sorry his family is acting like that.

 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee

@MademoiselleL:

Thanks. ya i try to ignore it but it gets to me when it creeps into my thoughts.

Too bad you guys can’t send some of your overflow our way! lol I joke.  

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 2011

I think saying that your at max capacity is the smartest rout they can always try to talk you into a decision but if its not yours to make there isnt  a whole lot they can do besides suck it up. 

Post # 13
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Busy Beekeeper

@Oneeleven:  lol,  i know how you feel (not about the family thing).  but i  had a Destination Wedding and very little guests.  so when doing my guest list, we had no limits on who to invite because we knew most wouldnt come!  it was kinda sad though.

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