Post # 1
I’ll tell you what. Wedding planning has forced me to be assertive. From people deciding what should happen at the wedding for me, to people now telling me they’re bringing guests that weren’t invited.
FI’s uncle asked if he could bring a guest and we said yes since he’s doing a reading…give them an inch they’ll take a mile. Now, he wants to know what hsi son’s former girlfirend and mother of their unborn child CAN’T come (because up until this point we didn’t even know this person existed?) and why we can’t switch his date who probably won’t come for his son’s baby mama drama.
My friend texted me today saying she was inviting a mutual friend to the wedding. I laughed it off assuming she was joking, and she texted back, no she’s serious, she’s asking him. I casually mentioned that we really only invited people in serious relationships, and she responded saying her boyfriend who WAS invited can’t go because they’re on a break, so she’s inviting this other guy.
Another girl told me she and her brand new three week old bf just bought plane tickets.
Why. why. why.
Post # 3
The venue has strict guest limits due to fire guidelines. I’m “so” sorry.
Post # 4
If they fuss: I’m really sorry but we’re at max capacity already.
Post # 5
I have been saying something similar. The venue can only accomodate xx number of people.
But that won’t solve your problem of them date switching. As in, _______ can’t come, so I’m inviting _________. Maybe say something like “I only want people I invited there because they are closer to me”.
To your friend I would just lay it out there and say “If I had wanted ________ to come I would have invited him.”
Post # 6
I was honest with people. We couldn’t afford plus 1’s, so we didn’t offer them. Anyone who asked, I told them “we are paying ourselves, and we can’t afford it, so no.” People understood, at least for us. But we didn’t get more than a couple people who asked us
Post # 7
I also used a strict “if you aren’t dating one year before the wedding, you aren’t bringing anyone” and stuck to it. So, if someone said that me then I said “no, you are not bringing your flavor of the week, if you do I will beat your ass in front of her”. This was to a couple of single guy friends
Post # 8
This is of no assistance im sure but I always read these posts with a bit of envy. We are barely having anyone attend our wedding. I would like them to. Its a dw so different but Fiance and i are not popular enough i guess and his family feels that he already had his ‘real’ wedding with the ex wife so they are not coming to ours because they think its pointless. At least my Mum is coming.
Post # 9
@vmec: lol I do the same thing :3
It’s true, I’ve def. gotten more assertive in the wedding-process.
Post # 10
@Oneeleven: omg I’m so sorry his family is acting like that.
Post # 11
Thanks. ya i try to ignore it but it gets to me when it creeps into my thoughts.
Too bad you guys can’t send some of your overflow our way! lol I joke.
Post # 12
I think saying that your at max capacity is the smartest rout they can always try to talk you into a decision but if its not yours to make there isnt a whole lot they can do besides suck it up.
Post # 13
@Oneeleven: lol, i know how you feel (not about the family thing). but i had a Destination Wedding and very little guests. so when doing my guest list, we had no limits on who to invite because we knew most wouldnt come! it was kinda sad though.