(Closed) Telling photographer friend we don't want his services

posted 7 years ago in Photos/Videos
Post # 3
881 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@DarthBetty:  As with all things in life, you get what you pay for.  I would just tell him that your folks are “insitant upon you using so and so phtographer, and since they are paying, yada yada yada.”  Thank him for the offer and let it go.  If you feel bad, go ahead and give the dude $100.  This is your wedding.  Don’t go along with crap photography because you don’t want to hurt feelings.  And also, take a lesson from this.  Never do business with friends or family.


Post # 4
1776 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I would be generous and give him the $100 towards his mission trip and say thank you very much but due to new circumstances, we are able to hire a professional photographer and would prefer to have him as a guest and to be able to relax and enjoy your day with you. 

Post # 5
4522 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@DarthBetty:  Unfortunately, that is one of the risks you take when using a “friendor” rather than someone you pay for a service with the expectation it won’t suck. I would just shoot him an email, not need to draw it out. Sorry you engagement photos got ruined, that would really bum me out 🙁

Post # 6
1680 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

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@MrsM914:‘s idea.

You could also tell him, that you’ve been considering lately that you’re hesitant to have a friend as your vendor. Tell him that you’re picky about your photos and don’t want your expectations to cause a rift between you two. Maybe see if he’ll shoot day after or engagement photos for a $100 donation instead.

Post # 8
61 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2014

I second Schatzie821’s suggestion

Post # 9
9129 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

I would give him the $100 donation and tell him that your FH’s parents decided to gift you with wedding photography so they have contracted another photographer.  Sometimes a little white lie is a good way to smooth things over.

Post # 10
2529 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

You don’t need to give a long explination.
Don’t even talk about money. 
Give him his donation and let him off the hook.
Just say your family is insiting on using a certain photographer, and you will donate to his charity, and (if he’s invited) he can come and have a good time.

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