Post # 1
I was just wondering how many others showed or told family/friends about their dress before the big day and to whom? Maybe your reasons behind it? Also, if you did show or tell, did you regret it? Thanks- I’m seeing the Father-In-Law this weekend for the first time since the engagement, and I’m wondering how to handle this!
Post # 3
oh, I totally showed everyone one my dress!! FIrst of all, I was really excited about it. But secondly, have you seen the thread with pictures of the dress during the fitting and during the wedding? The dress in context (with veil, flowers, bridesmaids) looks almost like a different dress. So, I didn’t really worry about not surprising people, because I know when I’m actually walking down the aisle it will seem totally new.
Post # 4
Only my mom and Maid/Matron of Honor were there when I got my dress. My other two bridesmaids, and my FMIL have seen pictures of me in the dress. The only other people who have seen me in my dress in person are my dad and my paternal grandparents. I was thinking about showing it to my Future Mother-In-Law in person, but I’m not sure yet…
Post # 5
I’ve only shown my inner circle. The circle includes my mom, dad, and sister, and FI’s mom, dad, and sister. (I wanted to make sure everyone felt included and it was fair) I have shown no one else my dress and have only briefly described it to bridesmaids or friends in very vague terms. I want it to be a surprise for all my other family and guests not just Fiance. (I make up new descriptions to toy with Fiance and throw him off. At first I said it was hot pink and black with feathers, then I said it was a white sequined pant suit…keeps things light and funny)
Post # 6
I’ve told and/or shown anyone who asks. But I also don’t get the sentiment of wanting it to be some huge surprise.
Post # 7
I couldn’t care less about who saw my dress prior to our wedding. Hell, I even showed Darling Husband. I’ve honestly never really understood why some brides make such a big deal out of keeping it a secret. Then again, the dress was far from the most important aspect of our wedding for me. To answer your question… my mom, aunt, Mother-In-Law, grandmother, DH’s grandmother, SIL, cousin, all bridesmaids and Darling Husband saw atleast a picture of it whether I was wearing it or it was a stock photo. My mom, aunt, Mother-In-Law and bridesmaids saw it in person.
ETA: Oh, and a few co-workers. I showed them the pictures of me in the sample dress.
Post # 8
I have shown the pictures to my mom, Future Mother-In-Law, and a few friends (mostly bridesmaids), but I’m trying to limit who I show pictures to. I want it to be a surprise! Also, I am kind of tired of people passing judgment (good or bad) on my other wedding choices, and my “look” feels like such a personal decision that I don’t want to hear what anyone beyond that close circle has to say about it.
I am happy to tell people about it, but it’s a fairly simple dress, so it doesn’t translate well to an exciting description (“it’s a white dress…with some beading up top, but not too much…”).
Post # 9
@lanipapillon: That’s a good point. I just tried mine on recently with the veil and shoes and it totally changed the look. Once I add a bouquet, I know it will look much different, too.
Post # 10
Only my mom saw it. I didn’t even show anyone pictures of it. I’m so glad I did it that way — I didn’t want people giving me their opinions on the dress after I’d dropped cash on it!
Post # 11
My immediate family, bridesmaids, and FI’s mom have all seen either me in the dress or pictures of me in it. I showed another one of my close friends who can’t make it to the wedding too. Other than that I am keeping it a surprise!
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)
I showed anyone who asked, including DH! And obviously all of you wonderful ladies. 🙂 I had no superstitions about people seeing it before the wedding, and it didn’t make it any less special on my big day.
Post # 13
My mother, SIL, sister, Mother-In-Law & 1 cousin saw it.
I wish it would have just been me, mom & sister. I loved that no other family members got to, so it was really nice for everyone to see it together for the first time
Post # 14
So it will always be a surprise for people to see you in it even if they have seen pictures of it, but I’m trying to keep who I tell / show to a minimum. I’ve shown Future Mother-In-Law, my mom, my sisters, and another Bridesmaid or Best Man…and then random acquaintances who have asked what my dress looks like but I’m trying to keep mum about it to the rest.
Post # 15
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
My MOHs have seen it- one went shopping with me, the other via photos. It’s currently at Mom’s house, and a few of her friends have seen it, but only one who’ll be at the wedding.
I just like that it’ll be a surprise. Oh- I also showed my hairdresser.
Post # 16
Complete surprise except for 2 people!