Post # 1
I am currently 8w3d. We’re hoping to wait until 12w (NT scan) to tell work. We were originally going to wait until after new year’s (we’re telling family at Christmas), but I’ll be off for a week and I’m afraid I’d come back obviously showing.
However, we have had voluntary overtime at work. This month we will likely be needing a significant amount of overtime. Before pregnancy I had been working an extra 10 hours a week. I threw up for the first time this morning, but other than that no vomiting. I’m hoping this isn’t the start of something new. But I have been feeling generally lousy, with a lot of nausea unless I eat constantly. Also, when I do eat sometimes I have upset stomach, which sucks. I’m afraid if I commit to the 10 extra hours a week, it will be too much for me.
Should I tell my boss I’m pregnant and my concerns, not say anything and refuse the overtime (which I was trying to do before I found out today how much overtime will be needed), or not say anything and sign up for the overtime and hope for the best?
Post # 3
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
If your pregnancy is affecting your ability to do your job then it’s time to tell your boss and HR(!) so they don’t assume it’s because you’re being a lousy worker. Do you need the overtime for the money or to maintain your position in your job? Would it be dangerous or overly stressful for you to work overtime? It’s really up to you. I personally wouldn’t sign up for overtime for just in case but if you need the money then sign up and drop out and tell them you’re pregnant if you end up not being able to do it.
Post # 4
@beachbride1216: I could always use the money. I would prefer not to work it at this time but it’s mostly a pressure thing. If no one else will volunteer and we can’t get the work done I always feel like I should work it. I’m responsible for getting the work planned out for each month, so it’s like I feel personal responsibility to work extra, even though I know that’s stupid. If we don’t have enough volunteers to get the work done (which hasn’t happened in a long time), our boss usually calls a meeting and says that everyone has to pull together to figure something out. Sometimes I feel fine but I can’t guarantee that I will all month. I’m afraid of this month happening – I volunteered for 10 hours/week ended up only working it 1 out of 4 weeks, and one week I was scheduled for 50 hours and felt so sick I ended up working 28.
Post # 5
i would tell your boss/HR sooner then. i waited to tell my boss, but i felt fine. if i was in your situation, i would want the support of my superiors rather than them wondering why i was always bailing out.
Post # 6
I told my boss at 6w4d because I was feeling so sick and kept coming in late or leaving early and didn’t want him to think that I was being a slacker. He was very understanding and supportive, which is nice.
But today, he just sent me an email with “?” as the subject and asked if I have good news from my ultrasound. This makes me super uncomfortable and also makes me regret saying anything to him to begin with. First off, my u/s isn’t until tomorrow. But more importantly, I had a miscarriage in August (which I also told him about because I needed time off), so what if something bad happened again this time? I wouldn’t want him to pry!