(Closed) Telling your best friend their significant other cannot come….acceptable?

posted 4 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 46
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Helper bee

Well I am so sorry formthe situation you are in. I think the time to have told her he was not welcome was after you met him and made a final opinion about him. I think now it would cause more drama than the feelings and yiu are trying to prevent. 

if i really hated someone I might have told my friend how you  feel and that it brings great stress to you on your wedding day knowing he may be rude to guests and that you have such strong feeling about him.

but now if you had that discussion it would cause a lot more trouble for you. I would just let it be. For what it’s worth I’m sure every bride has at least one person at their wedding that wish wouldn’t have been there…. Sometimes it’s a family member!!! 

just let it go and enjoy your day!!! Congratulations! 

  • This reply was modified 4 years, 5 months ago by  lolakitten.
  • This reply was modified 4 years, 5 months ago by  lolakitten.
Post # 47
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Helper bee

I’m in a similar situation with my Bridesmaid or Best Man (though he is physically abusive as well) but I just don’t feel right telling her he can’t come. It’s her decision if she wants to bring him and I really don’t think I’ll even notice he’s there that day. So I would let it go and not risk harm to the friendship.

Post # 50
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

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jamielynn86:  You are most welcome! I meant every word <3!

Post # 51
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Sugar Beekeeper

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jamielynn86:  

Well thank you . And I reiterate my best wishes.

Post # 52
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Helper bee

Put it this way, if he DOES do anything ridiculous or rude at the wedding, then a lot more people will see what kind of dickhead he is and hopefully this will embarrass your friend enough to pluck up the courage to drop his ass. That’s the only good I can see coming from a shitty situation. Sorry bee 🙁

Good luck and I hope all ends well <3

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