(Closed) Telling your boss that you are pregnant

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I work with a bunch of men so I waited until the few women in the office started looking at me funny (one even asked). I was able to last until 20 weeks, which was when my non-PG tops stopped fitting the way they were supposed to and strangers on the street asked if I was PG.

I merely told my boss in a closed door meeting that I’m PG. He congratulated me, asked if I was going to quit, said he hoped I didn’t plan to quit, and said they’ll work with me with the transition to maternity leave and back.

We only get PTO plus what FMLA gives us (3 months). So I will be back at work at 3 months, maybe earlier if they need me as long as I can exclusively telecommute (I have no one else to watch LO before daycare kicks in).

Post # 18
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Im contemplating this too. I am high risk and a shift worker so will likely be telling my boss in the next few weeks. Im only 5 weeks now but want them to have a heads up so I can change my work hours. In NZ you get 52 weeks of maternity leave – 14 weeks paid but it caps at around 500p/w before tax. 

Post # 19
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I have monthly one-on-ones with my boss, so when I was about 8 weeks I told him at our one-on-one. I told him I wasn’t ready to share with the rest of the team, yet, but that he could tell his boss, our VP, so that they could prepare for when I’d be on leave. I wasn’t going to tell him until 12 weeks, but I had bad morning sickness and didn’t want to lie about appointments, so I told him early. I’m pretty lucky that my boss and VP both have kids of their own (VP had just gotten back from her own maternity leave!), and I work for a Fortune 500 so they can’t exactly get upset. I was a bit nervous, but it wasn’t bad at all. 🙂

Post # 20
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

All I know is that my sister told her boss of several years that she was pregnant and was “laid off” just a few weeks later.

Post # 21
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2013

I told my boss the day after I found out, at 3+6! But I was also handing in my month’s notice…

Post # 23
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I got swollen kidneys and high blood pressure for a brief stint around week 13.  So, when I saw my doctor she immediately put me on bedrest for a week.  If you’re going to miss more than 3 consecutive days at my work you have to provide a doctor’s note.  So, when I had to hand in a dr’s note from an OBGYN that clearly said it was a maternity practice… the cat was out of the bag. 

And yeah, in Canada we get a year off, so it’s sometimes a pretty big deal.  But I work for a large government agency so people just bumping around and covering for eachtoher for various reasons or posting a temp training opportunity is pretty common.  I’m not really a super important cog in the wheel.

Post # 24
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I was about to tell my boss at 12 weeks, but then learned my dept was getting “restructured” aka lay offs, and I had to reapply to stay on the team. So I zipped my lip for another 2-3 weeks until they offered me a new job – a promotion and a raise to boot. The day after I signed my offer letter I told my old boss who was SO excited for me, and my new boss, who was like, hmmm… Congrats?! 

Hey, alls fair in love and layoffs!

Post # 25
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2010

I got swollen kidneys and high blood pressure for a brief stint around week 13.  So, when I saw my doctor she immediately put me on bedrest for a week.  If you’re going to miss more than 3 consecutive days at my work you have to provide a doctor’s note.  So, when I had to hand in a dr’s note from an OBGYN that clearly said it was a maternity practice… the cat was out of the bag. 

And yeah, in Canada we get a year off, so it’s sometimes a pretty big deal.  But I work for a large government agency so people just bumping around and covering for eachtoher for various reasons or posting a temp training opportunity is pretty common.  I’m not really a super important cog in the wheel.

Post # 26
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m struggling with when to tell people.  I’m only 6w1d so its early days yet, I’m not really stoked on telling people…but I’m in a weird position at work…I’m a teacher and in Australia the school year starts Feb 1st in 2014 – I’m due March 6th, so effectively my options are either to go back to school for about 3 weeks at the beginning of the year, or to take my summer holidays (early Dec – Feb 1st) and not go back to work.  I can take a year at 1/2 pay so I wouldn’t have to go back til the beginning of the school year 2015. 

The PROBLEM is – I’m acting in a Head of Department role at the moment, and the substantive job is being advertised to start in 2014.  I think i have a decent shot at getting the job, but if I have to apply for it and basically say “I’d like this job but I won’t be able to do it for the first year” I’m not sure they’d look kindly on it.  My direct boss (the former Head of Department) and I get along really well and I know he’d probably have some good advice for me, but I don’t know when to come clean.  I’m tempted to tell him next week, to be honest!

Post # 27
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I’m 20 weeks and I still haven’t told my boss.

Post # 28
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@NotablySidedJP:  I just told him in a meeting when I was 3 months. My boss is younger than me and kind of a d-bag so I wasn’t too concerned. Plus my work is constatntly having women go off on mat leav, so it was no big deal. He was surprised I told him ‘so early’ but he couldn’t have cared less.

Post # 29
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Newbee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I was pretty determined to wait until the end of the first trimester, even though I had awful morning sickness and was barfing several times a day.  I thought people would definitely notice, but nobody I worked with caught on.

I was really nervous to tell my boss.  Even though he clearly loves being a parent, he didn’t become one until he was quite a bit older than me and very established in his career.  In my field, that’s almost become an expectation, and kids before 30 aren’t too common.

He shares an office with his assistant, so I waited until the end of the day when she went home.  But at that point, he suddenly went into a series of meetings with other people! It wasn’t until almost 2 hours later that I actually made it into his office, and by that point I had worked myself into a nervous wreck.  But he actually ended up being really sweet and supportive, and much less surprised than I expected.  I felt kind of silly that I had let it get to me so much!

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@NotablySidedJP:  I’m sorry 6-12 weeks off? Weeks?! We usually take 6 to 12 months off in Australia. Usually it’s 12 months. I couldn’t imagine having a baby and having to be back at work in 6 weeks. Wow. 

I’m interested in how people tell their boss though. My colleague is pregnant and will be on mat leave after Xmas. If I get pregnant soon it will be really hard. We could potentially both be on mat leave at the same time. But I’m not going to put off TTC so it might be an uncomfortable conversation. I plan to pretend it was an accident…

Post # 31
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@ChloeTM2707:  I know I visited a friend in Chicago a few months ago and there were signs on all the daycares saying “We take infants – 6 weeks – overnight care” and I could hardly believe it! Australia does pretty well but Canada is even better…I’d love to move back to Canada right before I have my bubba so I can get 12 months full pay!

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