(Closed) Telling your boss that you are pregnant

posted 7 years ago in Pregnancy
Post # 32
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

notablysidedjp, i don’t quite understand your work conditions.  would you have to change some aspect of your current duties to avoid the radiation? if so, i’d tell the boss earlier than for those of us who don’t have that kind of risk. i told mine at 11, 12 weeks because i was missing some work just not feeling well.

you should also double check your leave policies.  your time off at 80% pay, is that short-term disability? i don’t think it’s mutually exclusive with FMLA.  i’m not sure, but please do check.  FMLA does not have to be unpaid (i’m using my accrued sick and vacation leave to pay mine), and you might be able to use payment from your short term disability to pay part of yours. you could then take the remainder of the 12 weeks unpaid.

Post # 33
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I told my boss at 14 weeks, mostly because I knew she’d be supportive and because I was tired of keeping it in!  But also, I have a work trip I’m supposed to take in December, when I’m at 37 weeks. Nope, can’t be doing that! so they have to plan for someone else to go. I wanted to give them that heads up. Boss has been incredibly supportive, has no problem with my plans for my leave and coming back, etc.

I talked to HR yesterday about it, and I learned where I was grossly mistaken about how maternity leave works. I’d read our handbook and everything, but it really wasn’t clear for what I thought it was. So now I’m mildly panicking about having to take some weeks of unpaid time–or CAN i get that short-term disability??–and also the implications to my pay and to my vacation time if I have the kid in December versus in January. It’s scary! Between the lack of maternity leave support and the back pain I’ve been experiencing so far, I’m not sure I’ll want to have another kid after this!!

Post # 34
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

My boss was in my store for a visit along with a few managers who came to help me with a project. Well she ordered a ton of pizza for everyone @ the time pizza had an high chance of making me sick (the cheese &grease). I didn’t want anyone to know so I just ate the pizza & hoped i could keep it down

. Fat chance… I threw up 4x. I came out of the bathroom & they were all standing around the door. My boss asked if I wanted to tell her anything, I said not until after my appointment. They all hugged me but we didn’t talk about it until after my ultrasound the next week. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 35
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

@glimmeringone:  With my first baby I hadn’t been there long enough so I couldn’t get fmla. I used all of my time (sick, vacation, personal) & the rest I was paid through short term disability think like 85% of my pay. I know not every state has that hopefully yours does! Good luck. 

 

Post # 36
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

@glimmeringone: Be careful before getting short term disability. Mine has fine print that states if I got pregnant in the first 6 months of having STD, it would be considered a pre-existing condition and would not be covered.

I’m 11w+4d today and hope to be able to keep it in until 16 weeks. We have a large meeting that I don’t want it announced at in mid-August. I’m not sure I’ll be able to keep it a secret that long though, I work with mostly women and am starting to feel like I’m already showing.

Post # 37
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I just started a new job in January – as in, the company created a department that is me and only me. If I’m not there, the department has to shut down. I’m 6w3d today, and I’m keeping my pregnancy under wraps for as long as possible. Realistically, since I’m friends with some colleagues outside of work, that means I’ll have to tell my boss when I tell the world, so around week 12 or 13. I’m pretty sure everyone will be at the same time thrilled for me and very anxious and perturbed that the department will have to shut down so soon after getting up and running, especially after the company has spent so much money on it/me. Since I’m in the USA my maternity leave is 100% UNpaid, and since I’m the breadwinner in the family, we can’t afford for me to take more than 6-8 weeks off. So, good news for my company at least, is that I will be gone a max of 2 months. USA maternity leave policies suck!

Post # 39
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

@ScarletBegonia:  I know right! I’m originally from Canada and that’s one thing I miss. They can keep the winters though, I’m happy with sunshine. I don’t think it’s 12 months full pay – I thought it was 55% or something like that. But it’s still great! better than Australia for sure!

Post # 40
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@NotablySidedJP:  Oh, yeah, I know you can’t combine them like 8+12.  I thought you were saying if you took the 8 weeks std you couldn’t get the other 4 through fmla.

Post # 40
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: July 2013

NotablySidedJP:  I was curious if you have experienced pregnancy yet and how you told your boss? I am 4 weeks and I work in construction as a project engineer on site. 

Post # 41
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Worker bee

I’m a teacher in the U.S., and I took 6 weeks leave, three of those unpaid, and the other 3 only covered by my sick days and personal days that I had saved up. It was my first year teaching and an unexpected pregnancy too, so I was terrified to tell haha.. But it all worked out! We’re thinking of TTC our second this winter (would be due next fall) and I’m nervous about telling my boss in my third year of teaching that I’ll need to take time off in the beginning of my fourth year too, so we’ll see.. 

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