Post # 1
My Fiance and I have been discussing this and would love some advice.
We’re getting married on Sep. 2nd (yay!) and are not expecting to go on a honeymoon any time soon but would like 2 days afterward to stay in a hotel and settle into our new place. We also would like to have the day before off. So that’s a total of 4 days off at most.
My job will be fine about it.
But my Fiance will be starting his new job at the beginning of August. He hasn’t been through training yet, and should be in the beginning of July.
How, and when does he tell his boss that he needs labor day weekend off, but can work Labor Day?
We’re worried that the boss will go, ‘oh, um, you’re asking for time off already? no, you’re not hired’
Mind you, we NEVER ask for days off. At FI’s old job, he asked for 2 days of in almost 2 Years!
What’s the most professional thing to do here?
Thanks so much for any and all advice!!
Post # 3
I would wait until he is working there for a few weeks to tell them. Since he is starting in early August, he can probably wait until mid-August. They probably don’t set schedules more than a week in advance anyway.
Post # 4
He should tell them right away. I doubt they will un-hire him if he does. I just started a new job and will also be taking days off. I just emailed them right away and told them it was for my wedding and they were understanding. it’s not some random thing, it’s his wedding that has been planned for some time. But he should definitley say something soon. That would look more professional.
Post # 5
I’ve started jobs when I already had family events planned.. like in your case… I let them know about it as soon as I started.. like in my “final interview” when we went through start date and such…
then When I officially “started” I would put in for the time off to have record but generally it was already known about.
I’ve always been that… as soon as you know… you should let them know kinda employee.
My mom had a business while we were growing up and she always appreciated employees that were like that.
Post # 6
We were discussing doing that but they schedule 2 weeks in advance (it’s for emergency services)
@amnystik: I’m the same way, my family owns businesses as well, and I’ve always told people as Soon as I knew something.
It just seems like each boss reacts differently. Some bosses consider a wedding as stability, and some seem to look at it as trouble. (first year fights, needing time off for honeymoon, etc.)
I will tell him that. I agree, we’ve just been trying for jobs for so long we don’t want to mess up this chance, you know?
Post # 7
Since it’s a position that they will have to have someone cover his shift he should DEFINITELY let them know.
I worked in the hospital and we did our scheduling out the same way…. It was always a let them know sooner than later…. otherwise we had to find our own shift converage.
In that field I don’t think they’ll think about it like that… he should be fine 😉
Post # 8
I think this should be disclosed as early as possible especially considering it’s a holiday weekend. Not sure what type of job it is but at my company, lots of people schedule their vacations around these long weekends. Also, starting a new job and needing time off a month later is generally frowned upon amongst employers (atleast at evey company I’ve worked for) so disclosing this information to them beforehand may save both parties some added stress.