(Closed) Temptation/Cheating

posted 7 years ago in Relationships
  • poll: What Keeps YOU From Cheating? (Please check ALL that apply to you)
    I'm satisfied, so I have no need to cheat. : (103 votes)
    28 %
    If I'm tempted I may fantasize about it, but would never actually do it. : (41 votes)
    11 %
    I would never want to hurt my SO/FI/DH that way, I would rather leave than cheat. : (85 votes)
    23 %
    My moral/religious compass is just too strong to allow me to do such a thing. : (39 votes)
    10 %
    I have cheated before. : (22 votes)
    6 %
    I have never cheated before, EVER, never even considered it. : (48 votes)
    13 %
    I have never cheated before, BUT I have considered it. : (12 votes)
    3 %
    I have cheated before, felt horrible and would never do it again. : (19 votes)
    5 %
    I have cheated before, did not feel bad. They deserved it! : (4 votes)
    1 %
  • Post # 18
    Member
    7456 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @niasg1:  Exactly. I found myself in the situation I was in due to emotions. My SO at that time was not giving me the time and attention that I needed. It had nothing to do with the physical part of our relationship.

    Post # 19
    Member
    11467 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    I believe that God requires purity before marriage and fidelity within marriage and that His ways are perfect, right, and true.  I believe that straying from these truths would be disobedient, sinful, and morally wrong and ultimately would result in nothing but extremely negative consequences — consequences that likely would have a ripple effect far beyond anything I could ever imagine.

    I believe the adage that sin takes people farther than they ever intended to go and keeps them far longer than they ever intended to stay. 

    I would not want to hurt God, my Darling Husband, our marriage, our family, our church family, myself, or anyone else by making the choice to willfully do something that I believe is  against the commands of God.

     

    Post # 20
    Member
    4047 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2014

    I don’t think I would ever cheat. Even if I was unsatisfied in my relationship, I would be up front with my partner and tell him so. I wouldn’t go behind his back. It’s just wrong and not what he signed up for. I could never betray him like that.

    I’ve never cheated and never plan to. Sure, there have been times when I’ve wanted to flirt a little too much (especially in this LDR), but it just makes me feel sick to my stomach to think about taking things further with another man.

    Post # 21
    Member
    2874 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    i get attracted to other people sometimes but ultimately i love my Darling Husband with all my heart and i wouldnt do anything to risk the relationship. Also i know id be devastated if he did. it comes down to respect, i dont believe in the common excue “it just happened!” things dont just happen, you have the opportunity to act on urges or not

    i like the ‘tempted to rob a bank analogy”!!

    Post # 22
    Member
    1856 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: March 2013

    @Hyperventilate:  Ditto. I know people always think it sounds stupid when someone who cheats says how much it hurt them, but what I did as a young person really hurt me, because it shook my entire belief in what kind of person I was. It really made me think long and hard about who I was and who I wanted to be, and I definitely did not want to be the kind of person who could do that to someone.

    I also no longer put myself into any situations where actual temptation can be a problem. Sure, I might walk by a man on the street and think “Wow, he’s good looking!” but I do not let myself get unnecessarily or inappropriately close to any guys who might be interested in me romantically/sexually. I still have male friends, of course, but I make sure that we all know boundaries. And I think that if I became friends with someone and found myself feeling attracted to them that I would close off that friendship, to ensure that I wouldn’t end up in a situation where anything potentially out of line could ever happen. I love and respect my husband and the boundaries we’ve developed for our relationship, so I wouldn’t want to do anything to damage our partnership.

    Post # 24
    Member
    4655 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I have slept with outside people, but in the context of an open relationship. The thing that bothers me about cheating isn’t the sex, it’s the dishonesty. FH and I are monogamous because he wants to be, but if he wanted to open our marriage for a short time I’d consider it. 

     

    I think lots of people experience attraction and temptation, if it feels strong, you can always get your jollies about it in your alone time. The fantasy will probably be better than the reality would be anyway.

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