Post # 1
Saturday morning, we were bickering and SO revealed that he was stressed about getting into the city on time because he didn’t want to be late to his appointment to look at diamonds. Yay!!! He had initially told me that he was just meeting friends for lunch. Anyway, he picked the diamond and ordered the ring, he left an envelope from the jewelry store just lying around. So tempting to look at the ring info! But I resisted taking a peek. I picked the setting so no surprise there, I dunno the exact diamond specs though (which I left up to him) and how long it will take for the ring to be ready.
Another reason that I didn’t open the envelope – I’m finally starting to realize how much money that he is spending on the ring and I feel guilty. I don’t want to know exactly how much he ended up spending on the diamond. Not because we can’t afford it, but it will be the most expensive thing that I’ve ever owned. Anyone else feel that way about their ring, regardless of how much your partner spent on it?
Post # 3
@Jewelieee: Yep! My ring cost about twice what my car did. It’s a crazy feeling!
Post # 4
@Jewelieee: Not at all. My husband is a grown-ass man, and he made the decision and was very aware of every dollar he was spending when he typed in that credit card number.
I love my ring and what it means. We could afford it. He got me exactly what I wanted within his budget and nothing will make me feel guilty about that.
Post # 5
My SO is in school (and will be for the next 3 years), so he got a loan from his parents to pay for my ring. I don’t know EXACTLY how much it cost, but I know the range, and it is way way way more than I would have ever wanted him to spend on it. Truthfully, I know nothing about diamonds or engagement rings, so I guess I don’t really know how much these things cost, but he ended up spending double the amount I thought he would. And I feel horrible, especially since it’s a loan and he will have to pay his parents back when he finishes law school.
After he bought it (he still hasn’t proposed), I told him that it was really unnecessary for him to borrow that much to spend on a ring. He told me that it was something he really wanted to do for me and that he wanted to buy me a “forever” ring right off the bat (we had talked about buying something much cheaper for now). He got really sentimental about how this ring is something I will have forever and that was what he wanted. So, while I wish he hadn’t spent quite as much, I know I will love it and it will be a really special thing that I will treasure and love forever. That he put so much thought and effort into finding “the one” means so much more than the price tag.
The way you’re feeling is not unusual, but try to think of it in terms of the sentimental meaning rather than how much it cost. I’m sure you will love it!
Post # 6
@BrandNewBride: I don’t own a car! But when I do get one in the future, it will probably cost less than the ring, since I plan to get a secondhand clunker (I’m a bad driver).
Post # 7
You’re a better person than I am. I would have opened that envelope in a heartbeat! I do have all the paper work on my ring, so I know everything anyway. But that suspense would kill me.
Post # 8
@Jewelieee: OMG I wouldn’t have the willpower to not look! lol. And no, I didn’t feel guilty about what my DH spent on my ring. It was his choice, he set the budget and he wanted to buy it for me. We both love my ring and he’s proud he was able to buy it for me, so I see it as a win-win!
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Post # 10
I knew everything about my ring, as I picked it out myself. I never saw it assembled until he proposed and it was pretty nice for that to be my first look so I’m glad I didn’t break into the safe to sneak a peek! The paperwork though, I probably would have looked because I’m really into diamonds and gems and jewelry, so specifications do it for me lol
However, I’d recommend not looking because you’re probably going to get a notion of what the ring looks like based on stats and that might set you up because you can’t really tell anything from the info-you have to see the stone itself.
As for ring guilt…nope. I know my FI, if he couldn’t afford it, there’s no way in hell he would have bought it-I’m cute but not that cute haha.
Post # 11
@almostmrsj: Hehe ok I will try to let go of my guilt. He was actually considering going over our agreed upon budget for the diamond but I said try not to. He didn’t have to save for the ring, it’s like the amount of one year’s bonus. But he’s the type who is frugal when it comes to himself so I feel kinda bad that he’s spending so much on something for me.
@Rubbs: Yes I think after he proposes, I will get to see all the paperwork anyway.