(Closed) TEN BRIDESMAIDS? stop the insanity

posted 8 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
1796 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

You can definitely find other ways to include them. For example, they could do readings or play/sing a song during the ceremony. Or you could have them attend the guestbook or pass out programs.

Post # 4
418 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Why not suggest they stand in on his side? But really…he’s right…what’s 2 more at this point?

Post # 5
368 posts
Helper bee

I say add the two more. If not have them do readings, or something that is special. Don’t have them man the guestbook. I always found that to not really have any meaning, and most people know what to do with a guest book.

Post # 6
2538 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

i have 10 Bridesmaid or Best Man….no big deal. Do what makes you AND your Fiance happy. Its his wedding also. making them do a reading is kind of a slap in thier face. they are his sisters…not some ditant cousin.

dont worry about what other people think….its about youand your Fiance joining lives and families.

Post # 7
219 posts
Helper bee

I would also say include them in the readings etc. My Fiance has 5 sisters and 6 brothers, I also have two siblings, and we already have 6 attendants each, it would have gotten out of control so we are including siblings in other ways to make them feel included.

Post # 8
5976 posts
Bee Keeper

I say include them as bridesmaids. Especially if it means something important to him. You have 8 already, what’s 2 more? 

Post # 9
750 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I am not particularly close to my sister-in-law (just because of distance, but I do love her) and did not know her well at all when she married my brother. My brother asked to have me involved in his wedding and I stood on HIS side. Her side included her friends and HER brother.

For my wedding, we are determined to stick to a small wedding party. I’ve chosen not to ask her to be a bridesmaid and instead to do a reading – she has a BEAUTIFUL speaking voice and I’ve actually told her that more than once over the years. I’m having her help me choose the reading and I think she’s excited to do it. It is an ACTIVE role in the ceremony when you think about it – she won’t just be standing still with a bouquet. I definitely do not think asking her to do a reading is a slap in the face by any means.

Post # 10
154 posts
Blushing bee

If it is really important to have his sisters be a part of your bridal party, then maybe just do it to avoid hurting his (or their) feelings. Ten bridesmaids is a lot for sure. I can understand you wanting to keep it a bit smaller, but 8 is a lot too. Like someone said, what’s 2 more? Smile

Post # 11
174 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Somehow I have managed to wind up with 10 bridesmaids too! My family have forced my hand on having extra children involved.

Originally the plan was like this: I’ve got 6 sisters, and the younger 3 are going to be bridemaids, I always wanted my 3 closest friends to be BM’s and need to include my SO’s younger sister if my sisters are included. Which was fine. And that was 7.

Then, my mum’s side got offended when I said I wouldn’t be including my 3 y/o neice and 2 young cousins. It got to the point where it was just easier to include the extra rather than fight the point every time we discussed the wedding.

Plus I think the photos will look great. Like others have said, what’s 2 more when you have this many anyway?

Post # 12
236 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I agree that having 10 bridesmaids when you already have eight probably won’t make a huge difference. It might be easier to just make them bridesmaids if it’ll make your fiance happy. Most of the decisions will probably end up being yours. Your fiance likely won’t care about flowers, invitations, etc., so if this is an area where he feels strongly, it might be best to give this one to him. 

Post # 13
1271 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

um, if you’d rather have your brother on your side and he wants his sister’s in the Bridal Party so badly, why DON’T you have your brother on your side and his sisters on his?

Post # 14
3 posts
  • Wedding: October 2012

I don’t see anything wrong with having 10 BMs. I love the look of a large wedding party…my fiance and I have 9 BMs, 9 Groomsmen, a junior Bridesmaid or Best Man and Groomsmen, 2 ring bearers and 1 flower girl. I honestly think you shoould put his sister in the bridal party. I don’t know about anyone else but if I wasn’t in my brother’s wedding because I wasn’t “close enough” to his fiance, my feelings would be hurt…just remember that it’s his wedding too…

Post # 15
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

my boyfriend wants me to ask his sisters as well when we get married.. 

Post # 16
1512 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

I kind of agree, what’s two more? I think 8 is a lot too, though. If he feels strongly about it, I saw do it. If it’s a big deal, include them by doing readings or give them tasks like directing people to the guest book/gift table or helping spread the word about the order of the day.

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