Ten years going crazy waiting

posted 4 months ago in Engagement
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

Do your best to remove those expectations from  the trip. It’ll only serve to sour what could be an otherwise lovely vacation. It may happen there and that would be great, but if it doesn’t, you’ll be disappointed about the lack of engagement AND the ruined vacation. 

If it doesn’t happen, when you get back home, sit down with him and ask why he has delayed proposing, and if you two can come up with a timeline to get engaged by so you won’t be left wondering if he’s reconsidered the idea. 

Post # 3
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180 posts
Blushing bee

Sorry to hear this is stressing you out, bee. If he has a ring, that’s a good sign. How did he react when you went ring shopping? Did he seem happy or did you have to drag him?

Since you’re worried about a proposal not happening on your trip, and then being upset after, I think it would be perfectly OK to ask him “I thought this trip would be a proposal and I’m disappointed. You’ve had the ring for four months. Is there something you’re waiting for?”

How old are you and do you want kids? That could help drive the discussion and help him realize why waiting is hard on you. Like if you’re in your 30s and want kids, he needs to understand you can’t wait forever and even a few months is a lot.

Post # 4
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864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

Ask him if he will marry you and tell

him to give you damn ring already. Idk what the wait is for after 10 years it should be that hard to hand you a ring you both know about. Stop letting him run your life and demand your ring. My opinion may be unpopular but I’m upset for you. Get over the proposal he is prop stressed about and get hitched asap

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