Post # 1
Hello, me and my boyfriend have been dating for 10 years. Two years ago we had a big marriage talk aka it’s been 8 years and I was ready, I had thought the talk would be him agreeing me too! But instead he said he wasn’t sure what he wanted. More time past and he said he was ready, four months ago we picked out and purchased an engagement ring. And now I am just waiting..the more I wait the more it hurts I just feel like it won’t happen and I wish we didn’t wait so long, I feel resentful and bitter. This weekend we are going on a romantic getaway to the mountains, I have hyped it up so much in my mind that the proposal will be this weekend, I am completely done with waiting. That if it doesn’t happen I don’t think I will be able to contain my emotions, I keep worrying about bawling on our way home if it doesn’t happen. Just looking for some support and guidance thanks.
Post # 2
- Wedding: April 2017 - City, State
Do your best to remove those expectations from the trip. It’ll only serve to sour what could be an otherwise lovely vacation. It may happen there and that would be great, but if it doesn’t, you’ll be disappointed about the lack of engagement AND the ruined vacation.
If it doesn’t happen, when you get back home, sit down with him and ask why he has delayed proposing, and if you two can come up with a timeline to get engaged by so you won’t be left wondering if he’s reconsidered the idea.
Post # 3
Sorry to hear this is stressing you out, bee. If he has a ring, that’s a good sign. How did he react when you went ring shopping? Did he seem happy or did you have to drag him?
Since you’re worried about a proposal not happening on your trip, and then being upset after, I think it would be perfectly OK to ask him “I thought this trip would be a proposal and I’m disappointed. You’ve had the ring for four months. Is there something you’re waiting for?”
How old are you and do you want kids? That could help drive the discussion and help him realize why waiting is hard on you. Like if you’re in your 30s and want kids, he needs to understand you can’t wait forever and even a few months is a lot.
Post # 4
Ask him if he will marry you and tell
him to give you damn ring already. Idk what the wait is for after 10 years it should be that hard to hand you a ring you both know about. Stop letting him run your life and demand your ring. My opinion may be unpopular but I’m upset for you. Get over the proposal he is prop stressed about and get hitched asap