- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2013
I read posts referring to inviting (or not inviting) SOs and +1s. For the sake of clarity of terminology, what do you all mean when you refer to allowing guests a +1? I had been under the impression that “+1” means potentially any random person the invitee would like to bring along, whereas you should address the invitation the SO if you specifically intend to invite the SO.
However, with other posts suggesting that social units (read: invitee + SO) for invitation addressing purposes are only married, engaged, or living together couples, what is the consensus on how to address guests who don’t live with their SOs but are otherwise committed? After 3 yrs of dating but before getting engaged, my Fiance received an invite to a close friend’s wedding addressed to “FI + guest” rather than “FI + philodendron.” (FWIW, the couple getting married had been together only a year.) Is this the proper way to address invitations to people in long term relationships? Is the [socially appropriate] suggestion of this wording that the invitee may bring his/her SO or may elect to bring along a platonic buddy, whomever he/she chooses? Then once the ring is on the finger the tag-along person can only be the FI/spouse?