- 5 years ago
Hey bees, just a little update for the TTC boards. Hubby and I had our first RE appointment last week. We were going in with a positive attitude, looking forward to some support and guidance from the specialist. We left feeling like we were hit by a truck.
For those of you that use FF, you probably occassionally read those “tidbits” of information that hover above your chart. I have read most of them, and one tidbit struck me as really interesting: “A 2013 Australian study published in Journal of Advanced Nursing found that less than 13% of women seeking treatment for infertility were able to accurately identify their fertile window, leading researchers to speculate that a contributing cause of inferfility could be “poor fertility awareness”.
I acknowledge fully that this is one study, and that I have not sought further research- mostly because I am charting my fertility and identifying my fertile window is not our issue; however, I half expected that the RE would at least start the appointment by asking us some questions along the lines of, say…how often do you have intercourse, are you aware of your fertile window, if so, what methods do you use to identify this?…you get the idea.
Our RE asked us NO questions. Is this normal? Granted, we had to fill out some pretty intensive health forms before the appointment, but would it not have made sense to just get an idea of what we’ve tried over the last 14 cycles just to see if perhaps, our issue could be incorrect timing?
Instead, the RE was cold, sterile in his approach (no pun intended), and disinterested. He spent, at most, 10 minutes with us before sending in the nurse to explain what testing he wanted us to do. The whole thing was over in about 30 minutes and we just left feeling completely overwhelmed.
After talking about our experience, we have decided to take some time to think about what we really want – whether this highly sterile medical intervention is how we want to proceed with bringing a child into the world. It might be our only option, but for the moment, we just need some time to digest all of this.
I hope other bees have had much more positive experiences with the RE.