- 7 years ago
- Wedding: March 2014
Hugs… This sucks. I remember having moments like these when I was waiting. Here’s my feedback:
Events that we build up to be a potential proposal: it is very dangerous when a lady convinces herself of when it’s going to happen without actually having a BF that is dropping hints about that specific event. I remember more than one trip and plenty of date nights that I thought it could happen… I would put a little extra nervous energy into getting ready. It never happened on those dates. I never let myself get truly sad or upset or mad at him about it. WHY? Because everything I’d convinced myself of happened entirely in my own head. I can actually understand him getting defensive, because you’re over the edge upset about not having a proposal when he didn’t seem to elude to a NYE engagement at all (or did I miss that part?)
Your personal walk deadline: this doesn’t work, in my eyes. If you seriously have a drop dead date that you would completely end the relationship by if not engaged, he needs to know. You can’t just give up on him on 1/1/14 at 1am without him knowing that that moment changed everything between you.
Some guys are talkers: you know, all talk and no action? also if you’ve watched sex and the city, what you could call a “we-man.” Wraps a woman up in all his “we” and future talk but push comes to shove and he’s not much for follow through. I don’t know your BF so I can’t say if this is him or not, but try to think about other big plans he has and what he does to achieve them…. If the answer is nothing, then he’s probably just a talker and you’ll need to adjust your expectations and potentially have to work with him more (communication wise) to get him to that point…