(Closed) Terrible New Year's Eve.. please read :(

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 47
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

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@Claire324:  after reading this update, I would be concerned. He is definitely backtracking (canceled the ring order because of a family fight?!!! What the fuck?!) and i think it’s really killing you. It’d kill me too!

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Busy bee

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@Claire324:  maybe he isn’t ready…yet. is that such a bad thing? you need to talk to him honestly and understand exactly what his new timelines are so you can make a valid decision on your future. if hes genuine with you and explains exactly why hes not ready and gives you a new timeline well then fair enough. if he continues to be wishy washy then you should have a good think about if thats acceptable for you to continue. i know 6 months ago on the bee i was pretty frustrated too my SO wasn’t ready, and he didn’t know why not! we’d been together 3 years, lived together for 2. and he just wasn’t ready. After posting on the bee of course everyone said oh forget about it he’s wasting your time, cos on paper i admit it looked like he was. We had a pretty emotional row that night and we nearly finished things. I decided to stay and trust him that he wasn’t leading me on. He proposed 4 days ago and suprised me by picking the ring completely by himself, and telling his parents weeks before it happened i had no clue. he told me i should have trusted him when he said he wasn’t ready but that it would happen. so my advice is to trust your gut on your guy and have a calm talk. its pretty easy to sit here and type when you’re feeling at your lowest and point out all the bad stuff, we’ve all had days like that.

 

Post # 52
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2013 - Upstate NY

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@Claire324:  Sounds like you have a good perspective on things!

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